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2011-12-22T13:47:00.000-06:00

The World is Your Runway!

2011-10-28T13:56:00.001-05:00

Twiggy site

http://www.twiggylawson.co.uk/fashion.html

Twiggy

On the size issue, I can't restrain myself, but I thought it was interesting that just yesterday one of my dear friends, who was a model (yes, a professional model) in the 80s sent me a link to some of her photoshoots from back then. I looked at her dress size. Are you ready? NO, not a size one, two, etc. But a size 7-8. In one case, it cited her as being a twelve. I was shocked. She had (still does) an envied figure: 34-24-34. So has there been a "size" change in clothing? Go figure. Hmm, I need to blog an article about this. LOL

But my point is, if 34-24-24 was a size 8-12, what is it today? Not the same. That particular figure would be about a 4-6 today.

So have sizes changed? Of course. As in most everything, changes are made to fit the needs of the masses. And to sell.

Take heart though. We are not all made to be size four. Or eight. But maybe, just maybe, we are all made to be closer to being a size fourteen. And what is wrong with that picture???? Honestly. A size 14 isn't unhealthy. No, it doesn't look like the latest model, but then do you really think they are healthy?

NOTE TO YOURSELF: Remember that the average American woman is a size fourteen. Hmmm, what's the average male size? Let's not go there! At least, for right now!

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2011-09-05T09:26:00.003-05:00

There's A "LEAK" in the Pentagon!!!

2011-08-23T14:13:00.000-05:00

Hmmm, that could be taken in a number of ways, but in this case, it's literally a "leak" from a water pipe, I believe on the 3rd floor of the Pentagon, due to the 5.8 earthquake they just experienced. So glad my friends and family throughout that region and beyond are all OK!

I've been in a 5.8 as well, while in Ohio, years ago. I was on the 4th floor of a building. Not good. Especially, when our buildings were not built to withstand earthquakes, as they are in Cali! I recall thinking the whole building felt like it was moving under my feet, but thought surely I was having some weird out of body experience! LOL. Thankfully, the building and I survived. It's still standing today. As for me, I'm working on it!

Hugs to all you quaker survivors!

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Autonomy For A Day!

2011-07-03T14:27:00.000-05:00

Happy July!

As we celebrate our nation's Independence, I hope you all have a safe and happy holiday week-end.
Also, my tip to you for the holiday is to, yes, stay safe, but why not find something you can celebrate in your own life. Something that you want to free yourself from. Or maybe free yourself "to."
We all have bondages that enslave us to a measure of detriment. What is yours?

Eating too much? Not enough?
No exercise?
Eating too many sweets?
Watching too much TV or Internet?
Moodiness?
Being unkind?
Making fun of others?
Being a know-it-all?
Passivity? Aggressive-passivity?
Controlling?
Not getting enough or too much sleep?
Not being able to sit still?
Living in drama?
Wearing guilt as a badge?
Taking no time for yourself or too much?

The list goes on. Whatever it is, pull in the reins for a day. Just a day. Even half of a day. The results? A keen sense of freedom that may lead to not just the moment but for the rest of your life. How do you know?

Too, check out the side-bar, as I have updated the menu for the month.
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It's Not 'Could' You But 'Would' You?

2011-06-18T12:13:00.004-05:00

A sobering story, no question, but not sure I understand the "shock" of it all ~ that it was "on a Sunday" and "not here" as some noted. Though I'm not discounting this horrific crime causing the community to be awakened out of their safe slumber.

Truth is, rape is occurring in that specific area most daily. It just doesn't make the headlines. The FBI reports that only a mere 26% of all rapes or attempted rapes are reported to law enforcement officials.

Who of us, has not experienced sexual abuse? Of those, how many have reported it to the police? Sadly, most of us never report it to anyone.

Rape knows NO bounds. NO day of the week. NO place on the planet. NO age, race, or gender. Neither does it pick certain faces, body types, or a person's apparel.

We too often forget, rape is a CRIME, not a sexual encounter.

How Are You Protecting Yourself?
Thankfully, tragic news like this causes us to take pause and remind ourselves:

Be alert. I will repeat this! Can't stress it enough!
Travel in groups when you can.
If you have to be alone, talk to someone on the phone.
Keep your head up and walk assertively.
Keep your keys woven in and out of your fingers, ready to jab.

Advice From A Trusted Expert

By the way, using your car keys is the number one tip a friend and "special agent" of 25 years for the govt., reminds me to use. As he says, as simple as it may seem, your keys jabbing into their eyes, throat, etc. can cause a perpetrator to wish they had not complicated their lives by crossing your path.

Surprisingly, he has encouraged me to NOT get a CHL (Concealed Handgun Licence). I've argued the point, but somehow he wins every time. While we both do believe CHL has its place, for most people, other forms of defense may be the better choice.

One of the pressing reasons he and other gun professionals call for CHL pause, is that MOST humans freeze when they are confronted with the reality of not just shooting but rather killing another human being. Therefore, the concern would be that you might have a gun, but in the heat of the crisis, you would stall and the gun may be used on you instead. Whereas, keys, mace, etc. could possibly let you opt out of killing someone but rather,"hit and run" like Hades!

He also informed me that it's illegal to carry a handgun in certain establishments (state laws may vary). For instance, it may be illegal in a restaurant/bar that serves alcohol.

Another helpful piece of info he provided while educating me: I do not have to have a CHL to legally keep a gun in my home for protection.

Check your state laws as they vary .
Take defense classes in your community. Educate yourself. Then decide if you want a CHL, etc..
Strengthen your core (you didn't think I was going to leave a chance out to promote Pilates, did you?) because being in shape may help. Remember to take classes from a professional Pilates instructor.
Always have a plan to be in contact with a friend or family member when traveling by yourself.
Be aware of your surroundings. If you frequent a place, especially going to and fro from your home/work/play, NEVER become complacent about what's going on around you.

Are You Prepared?

That is the question I leave you with.

Am I, you may be asking? Indeed, I am on a learning curve but am daily on the journey to educating myself on how best to protect myself from harm.

Too, I've asked myself, could I shoot another human being?

As my gun expert friend reminds me, "It's not a matter of 'could' you, Ellen, but 'would' you??"

The answer? "Yes!!!, without question, IF it comes down to my life or the criminal who is attacking me."

Guide to State Handgun Laws
Info on Why You Might Want a CHL
TX CHL Info
CHL Prep Establishment
Stats on Rape

Woman Raped, Beaten after Mavs Game: MyFoxDFW.com

Five Lifetime Principles That Give Lifetime Results!

2011-06-11T17:14:00.003-05:00

1. BREATHING. Pilates breathing takes a little practice! Inhale through your nose and exhale out through your lips/mouth. Laterally. Think of breathing in, around, and through your ribs (back and front) allowing them to expand like an accordion. You should feel a little extension in your spine. On the exhale allow the sides of your ribs to draw toward each other. You should feel a little flexion of the spine. If your shoulders are rising up and down, your breathing is too much in the upper part of your lungs/chest. And if your belly is rising and falling, you are not breathing correctly. Belly breathing doesn't usually protect the lower back. Too, be careful not to hyperventilate! If you are not used to deep breathing, as most people aren't, you may feel a little light headed. Take your time. Practice on and off throughout your day; it will make a difference.

Why is proper breathing crucial in performing exercises as well as in your everyday activities?

it releases oxygen into your blood
it releases oxygen to the cells of your muscles
it cleanses and aids digestion
it provides the energy you need
it helps your mind to find clarity and to focus on each task
it activates the deep abdominal muscles/the core
it brings life into your body-after all, it is the first thing you do when you are born!

CUE: Think of inflating and deflating your ribs like a bellows or an accordion. Three dimensional.
2. CERVICAL AND HEAD PLACEMENT. Most of us walk, stand, and sit with our heads forward instead of neutral. Take care that you don't hold your head up too high, no sky gazers. Don't allow it to drop to your chest like you are snoozing in your favorite recliner! In Pilates we practice and use cranio-vertebral flexion (aka head nods) to demonstrate the principal of head and cervical placement.
CUE: To perform a proper head nod, pretend you have an apple or a small fist between your chin and chest, not letting your chin fall into your chest.

3. RIB CAGE PLACEMENT. Soften the ribs keeping them from protruding. You might notice having a problem with the ribs "popping" when you are raising your hands and arms above your head while seated or lying or standing.
CUE: soften

4. SHOULDER/SCAPULA PLACEMENT AND STABILIZATION. Some of us have a rounded back (kyphosis), some more straight back, some sway back. The goal is to not wear your shoulders like ear muffs or hold them back like you are in military stance! Choose rather to bring the shoulders back and then allow the scapula so slide down.
CUE: open your chest, and allow your shoulder/scapulae to slide back and down.

5. PELVIC PLACEMENT. While on the mat in a supine (on your back) position, allow your pelvis to tilt so that your lower back is imprinted into the mat, while not lifting your tush off of the mat. Then allow the pelvis to tilt the opposite way. Between these two points is what we call neutral. And while neutral is a goal to work out of in Pilates, we often work out of imprint while we are learning and developing stronger abdominal muscles and overall strength. Usually if our feet and legs are raised up we often work out of imprint so that we don't go into our lower backs.
CUE: when you rock your pelvis back and forth, your neutral pelvis will be found somewhere in between the two positions. You can also think of a cup of tea resting on your lower belly where your pelvis is and find a safe position where it's not tipping over.

*Reposted Quarterly
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Love Those Hookas????

2011-06-04T17:12:00.002-05:00

The other day my hub called and told me he'd be a few hours late coming home that night. He sounded a little distracted. And he didn't give me much info, other than he was visiting someone about a new account. Hmmmm, I thought as I hung up the phone.

Later upon his tardy return, I was curious, so I politely inquired about the delay . Nonchalantly, he told me had been to a "hooker lounge?" A WHAT ????

He seemed very happy about the whole incident, but what distressed me most was his seemingly lack of regard to my feelings on the matter.

Getting control of my thoughts of wringing his neck, I opted for deeper inquiry. I calmly asked, "A what lounge?"

Without a blink, he responded, "A hookah lounge."

"OK, would you please spell that?" as I took my pen in hand.

"Sure...H-O-O-K-A-H!"

"What the heck is a hookah?" After a lengthy explanation, I sheepishly confessed that I thought he said he was at a hooker lounge. In unison we chimed in laughter over my imaginative interpretation.

But, really, what is a hookah, if not a hooker? And are they so different?

Hookers And Hookahs...

They come in all sizes and shapes.
They can be both fascinating and alluring.
They both might share concerns with the influences they may bring into your life.
They can used for entertainment.
They are not conducive to share with your children.
They are not typically for a family gathering.
They take as much time as you like.
They can be expensive or inexpensive, depending on where you go to get it.
They might be plastic.
They have been around for centuries.
They can be addictive.
They can get you into trouble with your health.
They give you an outlet when you think you need one.
They can waste your time and money.
They allow you to pay now and later, but mostly both.
They both present opportunities to play with fire.
They both will cost you more in the end than the beginning.

We Know What Hookers Are, But What Is A Hookah?

While hookers have inhabited America, the land of the free, since time began, Hookah lounges are just now attracting an audience across our nation.
However, hookah has its roots in the mid-eastern culture almost as far back as prostitution.
Hookah, (aka shisha) is what I'd call a water pipe or bong. I guess that dates me. The 70s. I know "you" know nothing about such a thing.
Hookah is all about smoking fashionably in a socially friendly environment.
Shisha is known as the tobacco or the tea that is used in the hookah. However, shisha is aka the pipe itself.
Hookah smoking has been used through the ages as a means to relax and chill with friends.

The question has been, is hookah smoking safe? Or safer than other forms of smoking? The answer according to the medical profession, is no. Read the side-bar and check out the link for more info.

While you may find yourself enjoying lounging at a Hookah, you will have to consider whether it's worth your while.

Like at any social gathering, you will find r&r amidst an array of casually dressed settings. Settings such as the lounge my hub was checking out as an account. Of course I had to go sneak a peek if I was going to report on it. Right?

Quite interesting.

My Experience With Hookas

Upon walking in, I was warmly embraced by the bluesy, jazz sounds lofting through a spicy fruit flavored aroma. The spacious room greeted me with open arms. Yet, it was wrapped in small packages of soft and subtle earthy tones. Each an island surrounded with its own charming character. Some with large cushy sofas, some solely with comfy chairs. All with tables fitted perfectly for engaging conversations while smoking hookah (or in my case, not smoking).

The lounge carefully carried the theme of the 20s though arrayed with an eclectic flare. Did I say quite interesting? How about intriguing? Definitely inviting to the weary worn seeker needing solemnity.

Some lounges offer alcoholic as well as non-alcoholic drinks, others ask that you bring your own. Others offer food while some request you bring your own. I would imagine all offer a place for you to just chill and enjoy yourself. Yes, there is usually a cover-charge.

Music? It will vary. In the lounge I went to, I heard a variety but all enjoyable to the hearing palate. This particular lounge offers nights on the week-ends with a professional DJ as well as an opportunity for gatherers to dance the night away. Speaking of which, most of the lounges don't open until around 4 and many stay open until the wee hours of the morning, on week-ends.

The age group? You guessed it. The 20s. Although you will find all ages taking part in this bluesy leisure experience.

In one corner, you may see a group playing cards or watching a game. Then another in contemplative discussion, while a different group might be steamed in heavy debate. But all carefully engaged with one another somehow.

Besides the second hand smoke, of which, I will have to say, I didn't even notice, the hooka lounge was an inviting experience that cost me nothing. And that is welcomed in a time of recession and chaos.

Is It For You?

You may have to step out of your comfort zone if you care to even explore the idea. It's certainly not for all. And I can't say it's a place I'd want to frequent. But now and again? Sure. There was nothing dangerous of my soul being stolen, and I didn't smell like smoke upon leaving. And I did find it a safe place to learn about people with a little different view than myself. A different culture.

I'd say it's probably as safe as any restaurant you walk into that has a bar. Or one that still allows smoking. You are exposed to alcohol in both of those cases. So unless you can find a smoke free, alcohol free place to eat or relax, a hookah lounge might not be such a bad idea.

And while the person smoking hookah may be doing themselves more harm, the second hand smoke didn't come close to what I've encountered from cigarettes or cigars in even the best ventilated restaurants.

Am I Condoning It?

I didn't say that. I said it's up to you. Any time we smoke, we take a risk. I am saying that I'd have to tell you to stay out of most any restaurant if I were going to use the same standards. I am just here to inform what my experience has been. And it's only been one. Your best bet is to inform yourself before proceeding.

By the way, while I imagine that hookers may always be...but...

HOOKAH NEWS-FLASH: In light of the govt seizing authority over tobacco via FDA, hookah lounges may soon be blowing up in smoke or at least come to a burning halt. There is debate as to what the standards, the regulations will be for these various venues of smoking, be they restaurants, cigar, or hookah lounges. We shall see. DMN 6/12/09

Note: Hookah purchases

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2011-04-03T11:57:00.001-05:00

Even With Broken Wings, We Can Fly!

2011-04-03T10:54:00.002-05:00

2010-09-13T13:23:00.000-05:00

My Lyric Archive: Someday Lyrics
You can goYou can start all over againYou can try to find a way to make another day go byYou can hideHold all your feelings insideYou can try to carry on when all you wanna do is cryAnd maybe someday we’ll figure all this outTry to put an end to all our doubtTry to find a way to make things better now that
full lyrics
more Rob Thomas lyrics

The Ross Sisters Articulate

2010-05-06T08:26:00.000-05:00

Wowza! That's some crazy Pilates moves! Just kidding. Believe me, most of us were NOT created to "articulate" our spines with this kind of language!

Enjoy and dream!

Dishes and Diapers New Blog site...Check it Out!!!!

2010-04-29T17:11:00.001-05:00

Just found a great new blog for you young moms to follow! It's called Dishes and Diapers!!!!

I have to admit, though I'm past that chapter, I'm in one that mirrors it, only in a much larger frame. My baby is 88 years old! Oh my. But what a lovely mama-child she is.

Anyway, take the time to visit this site on it's first day of launching and then make it a frequented spot you enjoy and share!

Ck it out by clicking here!

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Tattoos That Tell A Murderous Story

2010-03-30T15:05:00.000-05:00

With so much talk of tattoos these days, this is a tale of a different story; in my opinion, it makes all others pale in comparison.

I think the pix speaks for itself.
The Holocaust, 63 years past will forever be branded into our hearts and minds.

Which reminds me of the the cartoon that went along with this, (not readable on this blog format).

A child asked the older man why did he keep the "boring tattoo?" Did he do so in order to not forget how evil a nation can become when they do not regard life and liberty (political extremism)?

He simply replied, "No, my dear, so that you won't forget."

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Dancing Hearts in the rain...

2010-02-08T15:08:00.002-06:00

Rain, Rain, Go Away and Send Snow Instead TODAY!!!! Rain is to be danced with, but snow? It's to be in love, love, love with!!!! And I am! Rarely do I have the pleasure of its presence since moving to this part of the country. Absence makes the heart grow fonder? Perhaps. But still.

So rain it is! Coupled with that are boots!!! Maybe my love for boots could be equated to my fondness of that white winter wonderland of snow!

Women and their shoes. Ellen Marie and her boots!!!!! My fave for the moment are my "Puddles" or as some call them "Wellies." Take your pick.

When is it Stylin' and When is it Not?
Just like Pilates protects us from the poundings and storms of life, Wellies embrace/snuggle us from the rainy downpours, the snowstorms, and, yes, even the sunny days when we just want to "feel" like stylin. So really, you are not limited except by your imagination. Live a little! Don't be afraid to be different! It's healthy. But if you want it from a more glamorous source, check out Glamour Fashion.

Where Did Rain Boots Originate?

Sources say, from England. Wellington, to be exact.

"Rain boots were created in England back in the 19th century. A man named Arthur Wellesley, the First Duke of Wellington, asked his favorite shoemaker to modify Hessian boots (fancy leather boots worn by soldiers) to make 'em more form-fitting and look cooler. These boots came to be known as Wellingtons, or Wellies, and became a total fashion rage! After rubber was invented, rubber Wellies were introduced and became popular with farmers who could keep their feet dry and mud-free while workin' on farms." (Kidzworld, Inc. 2010)

Through the years, they've also been known as galoshes, and as one source reminded me, even "rubbers." They giggled as they told the story of their old fashioned teacher in the late 60s telling them to make sure they "wore their 'rubbers' on rainy days." Little did she know rubbers had transitioned into slang for condoms.

Moving right along...in South Africa, Australia, and New Zealand they are known as gumboots. And top-boots in Ireland.

Styles and Prices?
You will find that they come in all colors, designs, shapes, sizes, and prices. Even Jimmy Choo/Hunter, if it fits your budget ($300-800). My pick on the ritzy side: the red Hunter's that Angelina wore on M/M Smith. But if not...

Most can be found at reasonable prices ($20-100) and are delightfully decorated to meet the eye's appeal. I can always count on compliments flurrying around me when I fit them into my outfit (ck out the photo above)!

Check out this site for fun and playful boots for your kiddos! Love the Western Chef Lady Bug boot!!!

Chooka has some great opps, too! Nomad is another company with entertaining choices. Kenneth Cole has a great Jimmy Choo "looking" pair for just under $100.

Have fun looking and deciding! I'm off to dancing my "hearts" in the rain PUDDLES!!!!

Other places to purchase rain boots, click here!

Get the Goods on Rain Boots

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Pat and Alan Still Dancing In Heaven ♥

2010-01-14T15:49:00.005-06:00

This is a wonderful video shown at the memorial service of my special friend, Pat and her husband, after their dancing into the Hands of God on Christmas Eve. Enjoy.

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Extraordinary Measures ♥

2010-01-09T17:45:00.001-06:00

For certain, I made a memory this week. But not just any memory, but one that my future great-grandchildren will hear about for certain! I won tickets to see a private elite screening of the upcoming movie, Extraordinary Measures, starring Harrison Ford and Brendan Fraser, and Keri Russell.

Along with tickets to the screening was the "bucket list" opportunity to get to greet and meet one of my fave actors, Harrison Ford. Suffice it to say, I must be, as one friend described, starstruck! Days later, can you believe I'm still wearing the band that allowed us into the screening with Mr. Ford? Oh my. And, for certain, I'm still reliving meeting him eye to eye, face to face, smile to smile. What a class act he is.

Mr. Ford is not only starring in this film, he is producing it as well. As a matter of fact, this will be his premiere production. So he can add this to his multiplicity of accomplishments, such as being an accomplished pilot and master carpenter, just to name a few. Geee, I do need new cabinets in my laundry room, and I have been looking for a good flight instructor.

But What's The Movie About?
Based on the true story and book, The Cure about John and Aileen Crowley, Extraordinary Measures unfolds a heart rending movie that will steal your heart. The Crowley's story is not an easy one to watch, yet they bring over the top inspiration to the audience.

I highly recommend taking the time to go see this movie coming to your area in wide release on January 22, 2010. It will give you hope when you feel like the medical field has no answers to your cure. Indeed, it will infuse a passion to take control and have say over your health and wellness.

EXtra Sites to Check Out!
Harrison Ford audio interview about the film. Take the time to listen to his audio. I think you'll get a better feel for the movie as well as the ♥ of Harrison Ford.

John and Aileen Crowley's personal website.

The book, The Cure.

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Dancing Their Way Into Heaven ♥

2009-12-30T18:51:00.000-06:00

If you know me, you know my love for the Christmas holiday season. I begin the adventure as soon as my family will allow me. And really, that's whenever I please! Indeed, they are very gracious to accommodate my passion for celebrating such a joyful time of year.

This year was no different. Everyone joined in, helping me in the delightful labor of decorating our home to a festive brim. And as always, ♫...with every Christmas card I wrote...♫, the song
I'm Dreaming of a White Christmas danced in my head while hoping for that wonderland miracle.

For indeed, it would be a miracle in this neck of the country. But as God would have it, those Divine little priceless gifts came flurrying through the Eve of Christmas. And I was embracing every one of them.

As so often, when we get the things we love the most, coupled with them are sometimes life's greatest challenges. For on that day, only minutes from where I was traveling myself, heading back home, a dear family, Pat and Alan Wilbourn and Pat's mother, Kay Nelson slid while traveling across a snow covered overpass, and in a flash were taken from this life to the Next.

While it was hard for anyone near or abroad to hear of this tragic news, it was especially hard for those of us who knew and loved them. What do we do with this untimely event? This abrupt event.This sobering event.

It seems so unfair on the front end. Unfair to family left behind. Friends left behind. A community left behind. A community that they had greatly affected for the good of mankind. And a community they had not yet affected. But more importantly, a community that will reap eternal gain for what these precious people sowed in their everyday lives.

For in all of Pat's services to so many, be it through her creativity in her cake decorating business, her various and rich teaching and counseling capacities, or her graciously volunteering to help those less fortunate, such as survivors of Hurricane Katrina, her spirit will linger eternally through the lives of others.

Alan? From what I know, he left the gift of song, of music in the lives and hearts of many a young person as he was a band director for so many years. He pleased many an ear being an accomplished trumpet player. His church benefited from this gift, this talent as well (from what I understand, he was en route to play for the church's Christmas Eve service). Not to mention his keen teaching ability that so easily captured his audience.

Together? They were a devoted couple who danced their way effortlessly together across the ballroom floor, delighting so many who watched, and from what I understand, inspired and taught others. And not just "the" ballroom, but the ballroom floor of life.

Pat's mother, Kay Nelson? While I don't know much about her as I never met her, I've heard she was an amazing lady as well. One who gave of herself to others. I'm certain, like with Pat, her family would rise up and call her "blessed" as Proverbs 31 tells us.

My season with them was what I might call fast and furious! I shared many joyful moments with Pat. I think that's one thing I remember most about her; her infectious smile and laughter. There were times, I thought we were going to literally fall out of our seats laughing at the most simple of things. Often she would invite her youngest son, Devin, to join us, which only added to the equation of care free precious moments in time. I will forever be embraced by these memories. Eternally, I will be thankful to God for allowing me the privilege of crossing her path.

Interestingly enough, this month, I frequently had thoughts of Pat. Thoughts that I needed to reconnect with her. Impressions, if you will. But as so often, time has a way of racing by in the hustle and bustle of life, stealing the things we need to do the most.

So my greatest regret is that there were things left unsaid on my part. While I don't plan on walking in the guilt of that, I take ownership of it and hope to carry her loving spirit into the lives of those around me. For I believe that is what she would have me do. You see, I know she's forgiven me for when I didn't take the time to mirror her heart, instead ignored promptings to slow down and make things right.

Some of you may be asking what does this have to do with Pilates/exercise and health? Everything. Your spiritual, physical, mental, and emotional health are all affected by the ebb and flow in relationships. As well as the untimely, abrupt, and sobering events in our lives. Get busy this season, and, please, not with "things." Rather, with tidying up an unsaid kind word or deed to those you truly hold dear to your heart, for you do not know when you may wake up and they are gone forever from this earth. Think about it.

Photos from the Nelson/Wilbourn blogsite.
Dallas Morn News Article Please remember this article may need to be updated on acutal events.
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I'm Dreaming of a White Christmas in Texas!

2009-12-25T19:11:00.005-06:00

Remember, before playing this vid, you might want to turn off my Playlist at the very bottom of the screen/page. Click on the icon in the upper left.
This scene is actually from the movie called The Holiday Inn.

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To The Hospital We Go...

2009-12-11T13:37:00.000-06:00

We would much rather it be..."To Grandma's House We Go!"

However, I'm currently in the hospital looking after/advocating for my Little Ma! Thanks for your love and prayers! Update you soon. It's been a very challenging time in the midst of the holiday season! Yet, we believe things are looking up with recovery soon at hand.

Merry Christmas to you all!

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LN's RX = God and Aspirin

2009-11-27T10:33:00.001-06:00

Wishing you all a-not-so-stuffed Thanksgiving week-end. We have so much to be appreciative of, do we not? The list goes on into eternity, or at least it should.

Probably number one on our list of what we want to have to be thankful for is wellness, wouldn't you say?

Yesterday as we sat around the wonderfully decorated Thanksgiving spread at my daughter's, we were not giving our health much thought as we began to dive into all the delicacies that only Thanksgiving brings us each year. Why should we? After all, isn't it the time of year we pleasure ourselves, not giving an ounce of consideration to our well being?

But then, in a flash, everything we know and feel safe in can change. Like yesterday.

Just as we gathered around that glorious table of enticements, oblivious to anything but our own cravings, something less self-indulging was being required of us.

Little Ma had asked me to help her remove her sweater as she was sweating. Very odd, I thought. She NEVER gets cold, but I passed it off and continued to embrace the food before me. But then...I sensed a deathly quiet creeping nearby. When I turned, Little Ma was beginning to slump over in her chair without having touched a morsel of her food. Jumping to my feet, I ran to her rescue. Most of you know, this has been common place for me these past 12 plus years. Yet, never is it less frightening.

I felt the flurry of commotion dancing around me, but my mind, body, and soul stayed at one with hers. Was this going to be "the day?" I prayed not.

The young children were quickly exited to the kitchen so as not to scare them anymore than their little minds already were. So there Ma, my daughter, and I were. Alone. Yet together. That's what counted on this day of thanks.

Ma was clearly "stroking." Who gave this vile enemy the right? The right to seize Little Ma's body and mind? Who would give the right to return her to us? Only God.

She became all but incoherent. Her eyes became glazed and fixed, no movement. Her body stiffened like a corpse. Silence filled the room; it was deafening.

I began to work my mojo, as this generation would say. Humanly speaking, I began to do my part in bringing her back. I never take credit, folks. NEVER. For me, it is God who wills when we live, when we die. But He chooses to use me, at times.

So many times, I've been asked, "How?" How do I bring her back? Again, I'm not the Divine Healer here. I'm just the messenger.

However, I will say, as you've probably heard how many times, one word: Aspirin. Specifically, I use Baby Aspirin. NEVER use coated in cases like this. You want it to be able to dissolve quickly so that it quickly gets into the system of your "patient."

Amazingly, though she is all but dead, she has always been able to follow my lead and chew the aspirin and swallow. God?

And once again, she refused to allow death's sting to usher her away from us. She came to. She could tell me how many fingers I had, follow my finger from side to side. And when asked what day it was, she replied, though through a weakened voice, "Well, Thanksgiving, of course!" Like, "You big dummies!!!!"

The rest of the day she slept. Her body had taken the hit as it will do when our organs begin to shut down. But not before she asked if she could have a bite of pumpkin pie. Only Little Ma!!!!

Thanking God for another day with Ma.

Blessings.

NOTE: I keep a small bottle of baby aspirin with me at all times. Try it; it might save someones life! Including your own. ♥

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What's Wrong With This Picture?

2009-11-21T18:51:00.000-06:00

Hmmmm, Indeed, what is wrong with this pic? Maybe nothing, Maybe everything. You decide.

The gal on the left is the average American woman: 5'4, size 12-14. Nothing wrong with that.
The gal, Barbie, on the right is about 1 in 100,000. Wrong? Definitely not average. But then, I'm not an average size. Does that make me an inappropriate example? Maybe that seems a bit of a stretch, but let's be fair.

Seriously, have you ever envisioned Barbie being 6 ft and her bust 38"? I know, I haven't. And she and I used to hang out for years, so you'd think I would have noticed! To me, she was just a "friend." Nothing more, nothing less. Did I notice that she was pretty? Sure. But then seriously, what doll wasn't? Well, until Cabbage Patch Kids came on the scene in the 80s. And they were so desperately strange that they were just as desperately cute. Right?

OK, so now we know Barbie's not the average American gal. Again, what doll is???? Then why convict and shoot the dagger at her? Because she's been around the longest, sold the most (est one billion), and or been the best friend to so many little girls since 1959?

Some have not only dragged her through the dirt over her unrealistic figure (which Mattel changed in 2000, making her bust smaller, hips and feet larger, to correspond to the complaints), but contended:

She had too many unrealistic careers for one person.
She had unrealistic life styles for one person.
She had been divorced (never mind that she stuck with the same guy for how many years, and they are back together, you know!).
And the gripes go on.

OK, what is wrong with this picture? SHE IS A DOLL, not a person. Uh, she doesn't have a beating heart, she doesn't bleed, she doesn't do anything, not even Pilates, EXCEPT bring delight and imagination to an immeasurable amount of children, who by the way, don't OD on/over her body. They just enjoy dressing her up and pretending and using their individual imagination with whatever "career" choice they so desire.

So is there anything that concerns me about Barbie being an American staple for our children's playtime? I will tell you what does concern me for our precious children is NOT her influence, BUT rather the lame examples of adults, government, and oft times peers. Along with the onslaught of lies from the media about how we should or should not look (movies, tv, mags, etc.).

Honestly, don't give her credit for destroying a generation.

I don't know of anyone who has lost an ounce of integrity over owning/playing with a Barbie doll. Am I saying that NO one has ever crumbled into some kind of dysfunction over her? I would say like in anything, including the Bible, there are PEOPLE who distort the meaning behind the message. And, by the way, their confusion originates from something other than the object itself.

I do believe there was a great apostle who once said, all things are not necessarily bad, it's what we do with them that makes the difference.

So the next time we buy a little girl a doll, I guess we should ask for a guarantee that it will come fully equipped: With complete gear for being the "average" human (what is that anyway?), so that we won't have any worries that it will damage the minds and lives of our children.

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Whip It

2009-11-15T15:08:00.000-06:00

As noted on the sidebar, Whip It is my movie choice of the season, thus far.

For certain, movement of the body is a tad over the top in this exciting film. Amazing ladies, though some of you may not refer to them with that particular flavor of femininity.

Regardless of your sentiments on the matter, you have to respect their driven ability to succeed at such a challenging art. And it is art. Yes, it's a sport, but the creativity it embraces demands for coloring outside the lines. Hmmm, where are my Crayolas?

I don't know that these actresses prepared for their roles by performing Pilates, but it's obvious they could have clearly benefited if they had. Wonder why they didn't consult me? uh hmmmmm!

Too, the everyday challenges parents and teens encounter are defined well in this film, as well as leaving out the fluff. While Drew may not have always been my fave person in Hollywood, she has won my respect with the insight and wisdom she merged into the soul of Whip It.

So that you can hear this better, remember to scroll to the end of the page and turn off the PlayList by clicking on the upper icon.

My First Barbie, Part 2

2009-11-15T11:40:00.001-06:00

My First Barbie

Hmmmm, that's actually the name of a Barbie. But, most of us gals have had that "first one" we held close to our hearts. At least, I know I did and have.

My Barbie (note pic in previous blog) was given to me by my parents while living in Virginia. She was the first generation of "mod" Barbies, but I believe the third generation of Barbies in general. She arrived on the American scene around 1967, which makes her the inviting age of 42. They are often called the TNT Barbie. Twist N Turn.

She is what we call a vintage Barbie. I guess that makes me vintage as well. But honestly, I don't mind. Being vintage. Somehow, it makes me feel a tad important. You know, like I've accomplished something pretty unique.

My Particular Barbie was the First to Have:

Twist-n-Turn waist.
Real eyelashes.
Bendable knees.
Long straight hair.

Her generation continued to have the tiny holes in their feet to fit nicely in their "stands."

Worn Well?
It depends on how you look at it.

She's not still placed neatly in the box she came in. I don't even know where that box might be, except totally disintegrated.
She does still have her mesh bright orange bathing suit cover, though it's slightly out of shape. Maybe it was during the time she gained some weight or something?
She has her clear plastic stand, yet it, too, is showing signs of breakage. It is plastic, you know.
And her pliable knees? Well, they went over the top on bendable somewhere along the way, in all the play. Her left leg, that is; it no longer pops into a nicely bent position. Now it just bends fluidly. Hey, it could be worse. Besides, she takes after me. My knees are in pretty sore shape after all the wear and tear. We are vintage, remember.
She forgot to remove her earrings, and learned the hard way a gal must do that at least once every 10 years, or else turn green. No solution seems to rid her of what seems like a permanent damage.

The Good News:

Her long blonde hair looks as silky as ever. But it appears like I might have slightly gone scissor happy with the bangs sometime over the last 42 years.
She still has her own luscious eyelashes.
She can still do the Twist better than anyone with never a complaint of cramping sides!
Her facial features and her skin are only slightly showing signs of graceful aging.
And maybe the best thing of all is that she has never gossiped about anything I ever told her. Matter of fact, she's never opened her mouth about anything.
She's as lovely as ever, as far as I'm concerned.♥

Certainly, she's one of my bff.

She has traveled far and wide with me through the years. From VA, to OH, to TX. And I might add, it's not just been a physical journey, but clearly a series of life defining moments, changing our lives forever.

I readily admit, she's weathered the adventures perhaps more gracefully than I.

So tell me about your first Barbie! ♥

Check out my other blogs on Barbie!

Also, check out the following vid of the TV commercial for my Barbie that aired back in '67. Notice who the child star is!

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My First Barbie, Part One

2009-11-15T09:56:00.003-06:00

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Pilates On A Table!

2009-11-09T16:08:00.001-06:00

It's always healthy to do out of the ordinary things...as long as it's G rated. Well, at least when you post it on a public forum, like this!

This special occasion was inspired on my birthday retreat to an upscale hotel suite, which, as you can see, included a conference table. Since I didn't have any meetings, I had to think of a way to utilize the table. Sleeping on it was NOT an option. And I wasn't interested in eating on it. Working on it was NOT an option either, as I had determined to leave my "mind" back home.

But, ah, Pilates? Now that was an option! I know, I know, the surface was not the most conducive. Regardless, you can't keep a good Pilates instructor down. What shall we call it? Pilates on a Table. Conferencing Pilates. Pilates Conferencing. Table Pilates. Hmmmm. What do you think?

OK, OK, so some of you are asking, did I really do Pilates on that table? Maybe.....not! What was your first clue? The heels, you say? Heels never got in my way before.

Wonder Woman Pilates
Then came the idea to show my super power strength, being Wonder Woman, and all. Believe me, that light fixture was a lightning rod to my heart. Great for cardio. The balancing act was the next challenge. For sure, all the basic Pilates and alignment principles came in "handy". Looks like I was en route to the "mermaid."
Then came the greater challenge. My hub. I think he was enjoying the view, but more so getting a kick out of my nearly crashing to the floor. You should have been there to experience the moment. Maybe you could have encouraged my hub to quit pressing his luck with me. Then again, maybe not!

Until I grow another year older!!!!

Sizing Up Has Now Sized Down?

2009-11-02T16:41:00.000-06:00

Everyday we are bombarded with air brushed images of sleek, perfect youthful bodies draped across layers of shelves in stores, dancing across our television and theater screens, reminding us yet once more of our many imperfections.

While Pilates truly can help us find some hope to a better view of ourselves, clearly we will probably never make the cover of Elle or GQ. So what's a gal or guy to do?

First, I think we need to remember, it's OK to be flawed. Yet, getting there is the challenge of a lifetime, is it not?

Over the next few weeks, I hope to cover some topics that might help us recover from what seems to be the impossible, i.e., the lies we believe, starting with the media.

For instance, let's take a look at "size." We know that the average size of the American female is about a 14, yet, the average size of the American professional model is probably about a four? Hmmm, is something wrong with that picture? Tell me what you think!

A question I often get is, have sizes changed, or is it just our imagination that people can wear a size eight when they used to wear a 12, and oh by the way, they are heavier and larger?

Not long ago, one of my friends, who was a model (yes, a professional model) in the 80s sent me a link to some of her photoshoots from back then. I looked at her dress size. Are you ready? NO, not a size one, two, etc. But a size 7-8. In one case, it cited her as being a 12. I was shocked. She had (still does) an envied figure: 34-24-34. So has there been a "size" change in clothing? Go figure.

I've asked her permission to use some still shots of her published modeling photoshoots. She has agreed. So keep posted for that and more on the perils of life's runway.

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No, Cheeze, Please!

2009-10-30T16:45:00.002-05:00

Addicted to "cheese"? I don't mean the kind found in blocks at the local grocery store, but the whitish-powdery looking kind hidden deep in the heart of Texas. And not made from the help of Texas cattle.

While some of us may be addicted to the yellow, white, or mixed varieties of cheese that we either like on our food or just by itself, others are suffering with an addiction to a different kind of non-dairy demon, called "cheese." Heroine laced with Tylenol.

As I began to research for this article, I couldn't help but remember a young girl about 14 years old who was tempted to "try" heroin one bright sunny day in the halls of her junior high school.

She and her friend gathered around the clean colored powder before them. Debating whether they should or should not. The innocence of not knowing what they were about to get themselves into was in control. The reality of heroin's power eluded them. But something saved them.

To this day I am not sure what stopped me from stepping over into that dark journey. Yes, I said ME. I cannot tell you how many times I have looked back on that very moment in my life and thanked God that I stopped before it was too late. But many are not and were not so fortunate.

What is "Cheese" Heroin?

"Cheese" is Mexican black-tar heroin that has been diluted with crushed tablets of over-the-counter sleep medication.
The OTC is usually Tylenol PM. When diluted it's about 1-3 percent heroin. The problem with that is though it may be low doses of heroin, the effect wears off more quickly requiring more frequent hits to keep the high.
Cheese is a cheap high at $2-$10 a packet, therefore making it more appealing to the lower income populations.
Cheap with an expensive end...death.
Demographically it's used more among Hispanic people, especially those who are Spanish-speaking families with immigrants. Not that other cultures are immune to being strangled by it as well. It seems to be more isolated to the state of Texas. The concern it that it will begin and has begun to spread to other parts of the country.
Cheese is being used mainly by the very young. Heroin is typically used by older adults.

Cheese is highly dangerous to children. Of course it is, you say, as I did when I first read that in an article. Yet, when you look closer, you will understand why that's even necessary to be stated.

For one, children, more than adults do not consider the danger and often don't realize it is indeed deadly.
Some don't realize that it's heroine.
It's cost worthy to them for the high.
But the cost soars when that high insists that they return for yet another trip.

And once they are hooked, they are blinded to what is really happening to them. For many, they are taking it every day with little thought other than it makes them feel good. Quickly, cheese grabs them by the throat without warning. Then if they begin to quit taking it, the withdrawals are desperately painful. And sometimes deadly.

"Reports that we were seeing were pretty striking. Kids as young as 9 or 10 years of age coming to the hospital emergency rooms or detox facilities in acute heroin withdrawal," says Dr. Carlos Tirado, a psychiatry professor at UT Southwestern Medical Center and medical director of a drug treatment center in Dallas.

"We didn't know what to do with a 9-year-old in opiate withdrawal, or what the treatment ramifications of that are," Tirado says. "Do you send a 9-year-old to an AA meeting." March 2, 2008

Dallas Morning News reported on a young 17 year old girl, Sarah, who was addicted to cheese. She had struggled with the habit for some time. Her best friend reported that Sarah had been taking drugs since she was in middle school. The break-up of her family seems to have been a catalyst.
Sarah had tried to get help through treatment centers, but to no avail.

Toward the end, as an exercise at her drug-treatment center, she wrote her own obituary:
"A 17-year-old Hispanic female was found died. She went to Emmit J. Conrad High School and was in the 9Th grade. Her name was Sarah Alejandra Aviles. Sarah was a beautiful young women but had problems hanging with the wrong crowd.
"A lot of her friends were gang banger and they sold drugs. She had a 21-year-old brother, and a 8-year-old baby sister, a loving, struggling mother but a father that wasn't really there." Dallas Morning News 3/15/09

What a tragedy. What a loss. My heart hurts for her family. And for those suffering in this addiction.
Addiction is a strange lot. I've counseled with people controlled by this deadly disease over the years. So many never make it. And the ones that do continue to struggle more than you or I can even begin to imagine.
It's easy for some to judge people who are addicted to drugs or alcohol. I often wonder if those who do not have these issues ever look at what they are addicted to? Money, things, prestige, authority, control, manipulation, church, their religion. You see, it comes in all forms. And it has one thing in common: DEATH.
I hope we all find better ways to get our lives in order.

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Don't Blow Things Out of Perspective, Please!

2009-10-01T17:09:00.000-05:00

Recently my fav Pilates mag highlighted actress Lisa Rinna as an avid Pilates student.

I appreciated how Pilates has helped her keep that gorgeous figure; however, her "looks" seemed a little contradictory with the very nature of Pilates. Her face didn't come from the system, neither did her bust size.

Perhaps you find me a twinkle harsh. Maybe. But know that I believe Lisa would be a beautiful woman without all the injections.

I wish women in the media would embrace life and not always try to defy it or even deny it. Read the stats on the negative effect the media has on our young girls. Sobering.

An Interesting Study
I recently read a study where 1200 teenage girls were asked if they used the media as their gauge on how they should look/behave? There was a resounding, YES! And when asked would they continue embracing this as a "social benefit" even if it compromised their principles with family and faith? Ninety-eight percent said YES! (Lies Young Women Believe, DeMoss and Gresh).

We have a serious problem, and I don't look for it to resolved. The key is that we are going to have to begin right where we are. Each of us must begin to make better decisions based on clear mental and emotional health, not the example of the distorted media.

Lisa's Mouth Confession

I do salute Lisa for coming clean. RINNA: 'I OVER-INJECTED FACE FILLER' 2008-11-06 03:15:04 - Beloved U.S. TV actress LISA RINNA has openly confessed to taking her beauty regime too far and becoming an over-injected Juvederm fanatic (Starplus.com 11-06-08).

She spoke to In Touch and confessed, We all know everyone does it." But, "You have to be careful. I'm a perfect example of that." (DMN 11-9-08).

Well, Lisa, not everyone does "it". At least not in my world.

What Is Juvederm?

Juvederm differs from Botox in that Juvederm is a volumizer where as Botox relaxes muscles in the brow to diminish the appearance of facial lines. (Dr. Stephen Greenburg)

Your skin is made of two layers, with supporting columns holding them apart. The area in-between includes the clear-jelly like substance Hyaluronic Acid. While young, the Hyaluronic acid is in abundance. As you grow older, the acid between these layers diminishes, and the skin somewhat caves, causing a wrinkle along the line. The wrinkle would be gone if you filled that area back up with the Hyaluronic Acid jelly-like substance. That's where Juvederm comes in. (Resource)

According to the experts, when we reach 45 years old, we begin to lose our faces as we once knew them. By the time we are 50 most of supposedly have lost over half the hyaluronic acid we had as a child.

Facing Up To The Social Stats

In place of plastic surgery procedures such as face-lifts and eye-lifts, consumers have been moving toward less invasive injections in the name of youth and beauty.
In 2005, the global market for dermal fillers was $442 million (up 200% since 2000), with the U.S. dermal filler market projected to grow 25% a year through 2011, according to research supplied by Allergan.
Last year, 3.2 million Botox injections were administered--up 99% since Botox was approved for cosmetic application in 2002, the company says.
The company also says growth of non-surgical aesthetic procedures is outpacing surgical procedures by three to one--dermal fillers being third, behind Botox and electronic hair removal.

In laymen's terms for tightening the muscle/line with Botox, then softening or filling the area in with Juvederm. In fact, that combination therapy is something that many dermatologists have long been doing with Botox and Juvederm competitor Restylane. (New York Plastic Surgeon, Andrew Mark Klapper M.D.)

Face The Cost?

The average cost, according to Real Self.com, is about $686. According to the experts, you can expect when you are told you will only need another treatment in 6 mos, you will probably need it in 3 mos.

Doc Shop says the price is going to depend on where you live and your individual provider. They go on to say "...to treat smile lines around the lips, your dermatologist may require one or two syringes of Juvéderm®, costing approximately $450 to $600 per syringe. Finer lines—such as those immediately around the lip."

What's Your Face Worth To You?

Research says about 1 in 2000 experience side-effects.
Do you want to be that ONE?
Too, how much do we really know about these injections? Long term effects?
And how much is too much? In the many articles I read, I noticed that consumers of Juvederm, like Lisa, struggled with feeling like they didn't get enough. That they needed more. That their lips just didn't look big enough. It reminds me of anorexia. People with that disorder never think they are thin enough even to the point of death.

My View

Once again, I'm reporting with some what of a slant. I believe in taking care of ourselves, as you know. But are the synthetic updates on the face and body really going to keep us any younger?

And where are all the men? They are off playing or watching their fav sport. And I don't think it's looking at fake fat-lipped women, other than finding sport in it.

Truly, ladies, what are we going to pass on to this next generation? Bust-a-seam, I mean bust-esteem? Lip-esteem? Or strong self-esteem based on confidence from within?

You decide.

PHOTOS of Lisa: Taken from Google

To Yoga Or To Yoga Not?

2009-09-22T16:58:00.005-05:00

I was recently introduced to a product associated with Yoga. So far, I love the product. Why would I want to promote an item when I'm not a Yogi? Good question. Simple answer. It's one of those concepts that transcends lines. As long as you put it on your body!!!

Think of props/tools. Some are the same, some not. Take the Yoga block. I love to use blocks in my Pilates routine. Good stuff. I use the thinner Yoga mat when I'm working on carpet. Explore all options.

Keep posted as I will be reporting on the new product. In the meantime, I thought this would be a good time to address how Yoga and Pilates mix, if at all. Some of you have asked. Many of you have been leery of Pilates because of your uncertainty with Yoga. Let me quiet your concerns.

How often have you heard or wondered if Pilates and Yoga are twins in the fitness industry? The answer? Simple. NOT.
That's not to say that they don't or can't complement each other. Personally, I don't think it's important to try and marry them. Let them each have their own place. Yet, it's possible to combine them in a productive routine according to the authors of Pilates Yoga.

We need Yoga asanas that promote balance. Balance is critical as we age. Maybe you heard about my Warrior Pose experience from a previous post. Laughter is good for the soul. I was viewing a DVD on Yoga and Pilates. So I thought I'd try out some Yoga. Uh-huh. I got into position without a glitch. Easy enough, I thought. Staying in the position? Didn't happen. The next thing I knew, I was shooting off into my rock fireplace. Ouchy ouch! I would highly recommend staying away from surfaces harder than your down pillow while learning Yoga!

We need Pilates as it promotes using your core/powerhouse. Joseph emphasized concentration, control. precision. breathing, flow/fluidity, and centering. Pilates teaches us how to re-align and re-educate our bodies to prevent injuries and or to help us recover from injury.

Here are a few tips on the difference and the similarities:

Differences

Yoga springs from the East and has been around for a gillion years. More like 2000 years ago by Indian sage Patanjali.
Pilates found its origin from German born Joseph Pilates in the 1800s. He brought it to American circa early 1900s.
Yoga often involves meditation, but the West doesn't emphasize it as much as the East.
Pilates and Yoga breathing techniques are different.
Yoga does not incorporate equipment like Pilates does. Yoga exercises are performed mostly on the mat with some basic tools like blocks, straps, bolsters, and chairs.
Which by the way, usually a yoga mat is much thinner than a Pilates mat.
Yoga lends itself toward your ability to balance, and it embraces being supple. Pilates, while bringing that to the plate, does not emphasize it.
It seems that Pilates focuses more on the anatomy and the bio mechanics of the body. Perhaps, Yoga does so in its more modern state.
Typically, both are performed in groups, however, Pilates offers more one-on-one training. The equipment creates that need. However, I would recommend always taking private lessons in either system you plan on getting involved in.

While I would highly recommend taking Pilates only at a reputable Pilates studio, I might suggest that taking a Yoga class at a reputable fitness center would be doable. In part because Yoga has been around long enough that hopefully the people teaching it are highly qualified. Too, Yoga does not traditionally use equipment. Props but not large equipment.

Whereas Pilates has many pieces of equipment along with props. Rarely will you see rec centers, etc. with Pilates equipment. This unfortunate void is changing and will probably become more common.

Not to sound arrogant, but it's not often that a highly qualified Pilates instructor is drawn to teaching in rec centers. Please don't misquote me. I'm not saying "EVER." I am saying at this point in time, with this particular system, rarely are professionally trained Pilates instructors teaching in the local gyms/rec centers. These "Pilates" instructors are usually trained in general fitness, involving various forms of exercise. However, they are NOT seasoned in the system of Pilates.

Will That Change?
Sure. Pilates, though it has been around since the late 1800s, has not been taught openly and freely outside of certain private studios but a few short years (since October 2000). Mainly due to a court battle over who or who could not patent or trademark the system after Joseph Pilates passed away. You see, he didn't will his discipline to any one person or studio (another story for another time). Therefore, the Manhattan court decided that anyone could teach Pilates and that Pilates is a method of exercise such as yoga, aerobics, rather than a trademark.

By the way, an example of change occurring in fitness centers that I know of from personal experience is Cooper Fitness Center in Dallas. They have an entire section designated for Pilates private instruction with equipment. The trainers are professional Pilates instructors. If you elect to go there, let me know, and I can refer an excellent teacher.

FYI, I'd say Pilates is more expensive in the sense that you pay more for private lessons than group yoga sessions.

Similarities

Both are green, and I don't mean fresh out of the shoot. Organic might be a better word.
Both are mindful disciplines. You use a mind-body connection. You have to think!
Both call for using your mind to bring movement into your body.
Both bring health to your body.
Both bring beautiful movement into your body.
Both have different levels.
Both have modifications.
Both bring life time results.
They both can bring health to your entire body.
Both can be implemented in your every day life.
Both are typically performed barefoot.
They have some exercises that are basically the same. Ex. Cat. Note, I said "basically."
Neither were originally designed to be a cardio workout.
Both should be complemented with a cardio routine.
Both are safe as long as you have a release from your trusted medical professional and as long as you perform the movements they way they were intended. Remember, people injure people.
Both are great for rehabbing from an injury.
Both have various health benefits.
Both have contraindications, so you should have a professional directing you in what is safe for your particular body and what isn't.
Overall, most of the movements work for any age, gender.
Both are economically "safe" for your budget.
Neither are a fad. They have existed for many years.
You can learn their methods/exercises and practice them in the comfort of your own home.

Which One Is For You?
What I have found is that some people hate one and love the other. That may be in part, due to the experience, be it good or bad. Example: a good/bad instructor or the lack of understanding of the system. Or it may be purely a personality choice. For me, I enjoy both; however, without question, Pilates is my first love.

Resources: Pilates Yoga Smith, Kelly, and Monks 2004, Balanced Body, Personal interviews, Yogatoes, Cooper Clinic.
NOTE: If you would like a discount from Yogatoes, let me know!

Revised: 09/26/09

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Dad's 107th Birthday!

2009-09-21T22:09:00.000-05:00

Daddy's b/d was today. He would have been 107 years old! Wow! Indeed he was like my grandpa, as I've always said.

I'm celebrating his special day all week. Right now, I just want to reflect and be silent. Until tomorrow...Love and miss you, Dad.

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How One Little Water Heater Can Drain The Life Out Of You!

2009-09-17T12:59:00.003-05:00

Wow, it's been a few days since I posted. I am for certain delinquent. Well, not in a legal sense. Although...after my experience with our hot water heater bursting, I've had a few urges to go legal or wacky one.

Why? What we thought and were promised was going to take about a week for clean-up, ended up going into almost two months without completion to this date.

What Did Get Accomplished?
Let's see, everything was painted including my lawn, shrubbery, well, washer and dryer, floors, dresser, love-seat, rock fireplace, rugs, shower curtains, wallpaper, and table cloth, just to mention a few. No wonder it was taking the painters/trim guys till eternity!

The contractor eventually admitted that he was pulling the painters off of our job and sending them to other jobs. Lovely. That's the kind of contractor you want. But he kept insisting his desire was to run a top notch professional company. Uh huh.

By the way, he is one of the contractor's that State Farm uses in this area. So we felt we were safe if we took them up on the offer. After all, their service provides a long time guarantee with 15% off. Hmmm, on the front end, that sounded pretty good. Then as time rolled along with our nerves, we questioned our decision. And guarantee? We couldn't even get a guarantee on the entrance, and we were supposed to trust it on the exit?

We were silently accepting of things until long about the third week. We were growing weary of the few hours here and there, never a day of work completed. Along with the re-entrance of paint fumes keeping our windows and doors open with 100+ degree temps. You don't want to know our electric bill. Too, we were breaking our necks stumbling over our torn up house. And Little Mama was hanging in but struggling as well with toxic breathing and carving out jagged paths with her little walker.

The Final Coat
The painters decided to wait and complete the project until after our flooring was put in. OK, NOT. We adamantly opposed. So they came out and partially finished the last room. Once again, we conveyed our sentiments. The painter showed up, and said he'd be right back, to which he called later saying he was going to another job, and he'd be back in a few days. I was completely coming undone at this point. We both were. So I called the contractor and gave him an ultimatum.

The contractor agreed with us and sent the painter right over. I told him I didn't want an angry painter in my house. "Oh, no worries, ma'am." Sure. What did we get? An angry painter? Nope! We got three VERY angry painters. A whole family of them: The painter, his wife, and his brother.

The results: They left without notice and slopped paint and hammers everywhere. The evidence spoke loudly. We now had an even bigger mess.

The Day The Music Died
Then came the contractor's much older brother, who is the owner. He stands about 6'6 and about 350 pounds. Never met the man before, but he showed up unannounced on our doorstep with his office person. Later we found he brought her for a witness. And oh, by the way, we had been alerted that they had been recording us during our "working" out the fiasco. Lovely. Again, the kind of contractor you want.

Anyway, I was out of the conversation as I was attending to my mom. Later I joined in and began to share how I "felt." After all, I was the customer who was a key player in the drama. God forbid a woman share her feelings. To my utter shock, within a few minutes Big Foot turned on me with his towering body and blew his dragon fire breathing breath down my throat. I was in shock. But not enough to his liking. I'm sure he's used to putting little women in their place.

I regained my composure and assertively said, "Do NOT yell at me!" He continued with fire coming out of his nostrils. Once again, I clearly said, "Do NOT yell at me!" My husband then said, "Don't talk to my wife that way!"

Big Foot then turned to my husband and said, "Fine, I'll talk to you then." Wow. Everything within me wanted to tell him to get out and never step foot back in my house. My husband told me he was feeling the same way. But what had us both was that we were feeling somewhat helpless as they were holding the cards.

Looking back, we realize we should have fired them that day and got a new deck.

Later Big Foot came into the room where I was and started in again. This time with, "By the way, I was NOT yelling at you!" I couldn't believe he had now followed me and was going off on me again, arrogantly defending his illness.

I said clearly, "Yes, you were." He contended. I began to realize I was arguing with a fool, and I realized it was time for me to shush. Interesting that his poor little office lady turned back to me at one point when he was nowhere in sight and mouthed, "I am so sorry."

They continued to vacillate with us on what needed to be fixed and how we would be compensated. We both made a list. Theirs was to be signed. They refused to go over it until they came to do the work, which by the way, was put off to another week.

Our State Farm agent, who by the way, has been wonderfully supportive and helpful, told us we needed to evaluate and decide where our threshold of tolerance and pain ended.

So on 09/14/09 we fired the contractor with or without the support of State Farm. Thankfully, State Farm elected to redeem us, and now we are preparing for hurricane clean-up.

I've had an immeasurable amount of work during this chronic saga. Pilates to the rescue! Truly, I believe it's been a salvation to my endurance and sanity.

NOTE: This does NOT include all of the numerous mistakes the contractor and his subcontractors made. We don't have that much time. BTW, no offense to Big Foot and the use of his name.

I'll keep you posted.

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Patrick Swayze Passes Into Eternity

2009-09-16T18:27:00.003-05:00

In honor of Patrick's death at age 57 with pancreatic cancer, I thought I'd post this vid of him dancing with his wife of 30+ years. What talent! While he grew up around a cowboy dad in TX, his mom was a dance teacher. What a combo and it reflected in Patrick's amazing diversity.

I see Pilates flowing throughout their bodies.

The Mystery Of The Lidless Toilet

2009-08-29T08:45:00.003-05:00

This is how I maintain bathroom etiquette. Ask anyone who knows me well. (See photo!)

Why Am I Posting TMI (too much info!)?
I was at a hotel this past week. Not my idea for overnight stays, but you do what you have to do, right?

While there were some odd issues from the get go, such as upon entry to my hotel room, the desk trashcan was placed neatly ON the desk, (I guess someone thought access on top would be more user friendly?) and dark coffee stains were on the bed covers? bluck! I elected to overlook it as everything else was in place.

Fast-Forward To 4 a.m. That Night:

BACKDROP: Truth is, I had to get another room as my flight schedule was mixed up (by me!).

Upon entry, BOTH toilet lids were up and the potty had not been flushed. Now, let me clarify that what had not been flushed; it looked like leftovers from where housekeeping had been cleaning. Regardless. I immediately put the lids in their rightful place (photo above for directions!)

I went on about my evening, enjoying long awaited solitude. Got ready for bed.

Moving right along. Around 4 a.m., I thought I heard something at my door, but I dismissed it as nothing threatening and went back to sleep. Around 5 a.m., I was awakened by yet other noises around my door. Hmmmm, so this time I got up to see what was lurking in the dark crevices of my room.

I noticed movement from the shadows under the door. The hotel bill was pushed half way under my door. OK, that seemed fairly normal. But before I headed back to bed, I thought I'd just potty. I know, I know, TMI, but without it, you won't get the full view. Not that I really want you to. Oh my.

Anyway, without turning on the light, I went to be seated, when suddenly I found myself plummeting into the cold toilet water. If I wasn't fully awake, I was then! I don't know whether I was more startled from the Nestea plunge, or the fact that both lids were up. Understand, I NEVER, NEVER, NEVER leave toilet lids up, especially not all three. Afterall, I'm not a man. Really, I'm not! =)

Completely awake, having been jolted out of a deep slumber, I was ready to take on the world of ghosts or intruders. I'm not the kind of person you can mess with in the middle of the night. Now that I'm thinking about it, not by day either!

Moving right along. I stumbled my way back to an empty bed and jumped in and smothered myself with every ounce of covers I could manage. Only peeping out for a breath of air.

Sleep? That would be for another night for all I could do was retrace my steps and wonder. Wonder how in the 'burg ALL THREE lids were up on that potty???? Had someone come into my room at 4 a.m.? Was it a dare? After all, this was in a four-college town. Hey, how many pranks did I play when I was a young adult? You don't even want to know. Well maybe you do, but that's for another blog.

Fox News had just reported about cameras being planted in hotels...so maybe this was truly a joke...you know, me falling into a toilet at five in the morning. Well, I would laugh at me. Wouldn't you? Sure you would.

The more I struggled to figure it out, the more the equation became less solvable. I finally gave it up as the break of daylight came peeping through my window.

Later when I spoke with my hub, he knew immediately who it was. Huh? Who?

"Well, Dave, of course", he quipped. "He just couldn't be away from you any longer!"

Ahhhh. Of course, why had I not thought of that? Dave is our friendly ghost back home. I know, I know, that sounds crazy. Maybe. But we like to think he is happy in our home. And I'd much rather think he was the answer to the mystery of the lidless potty than someone actually making an unannounced visit that night.

Before and after!!!! Well, sort of.

NOTE: Fox News report on hotel cameras actually had to do with a highend hotel, out in Cali, I believe. Invasive? Hmmm, if you call management encouraging customers to use them explicitly for the purpose of capturing their romantic encounters. But wait, that's not all. They are then encouraged to post the results on fb.

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Are Your Breasts Numbered?????

2009-08-22T10:32:00.006-05:00

Did you know that if you die, you can not only be identified by your teeth, and phalanges (fingers) but your breasts? Well, not just any breasts, but fake breasts. So, yes, it might be good to augment, so that if there is ever any question as to who you are, you could be identified by yet another measure. Possibly a bigger one. Did I just say that? Tacky. Tacky. Seriously, every breast implant is tagged with a serial number.

How do I know? I heard it on the news. As in the case of the missing young woman, Jasmine Fiore, whose husband, Ryan Jenkins is on the run. While he not only possibly strangled her with her underwear, he went a few alarming steps beyond as any psycho path would, and he removed her teeth and cut off her fingers. Now that's the kind of guy you want to spend the rest of your life with...and you will 'cause he'll end it for you sooner than you expected. Fortunately, he didn't know about the serial number on her breasts or, as the media stated, she'd would have been found wearing a size AA.

The one thought the media keeps missing is, this is yet another case of domestic violence.

Let's pray for her family as well as pray that Psycho is found soon.

NOTE: BTW, I have friends who have augmentations, so I'm not trying to be rude. Just because our views are different, doesn't mean we don't love one another.

Chris Brown, Will He Truly Make The Necessary Changes?

2009-08-16T14:46:00.000-05:00

A few months ago, I posted articles on domestic violence in which I included the story of Chris Brown.

Many of you know he just recently came out with his public apology (July 21, 2009). See below. Remember to turn off the Playlist at the end of the page if you want to hear it more clearly.

Stats on domestic violence http://www.abanet.org/domviol/statistics.html

Spinning My Life Away

2009-08-08T12:13:00.003-05:00

After all these years, and I'm just now figuring out why I could never turn into Wonder Woman. Spinning. Yes, spinning. I wasn't spinning.

But then now that I think about it, I have been spinning most of my life, and it's still not working!

I'm wondering what her exercise regime was back then with great physical shape she was in as well as the demand on her ability to move fluidly. Pilates maybe?

The script in the recent movie, Sky High allows Carter to poke fun at her most famous character by having her state: "How do you expect me to do something like that? I'm not Wonder Woman."

Beauty In The Eyes Of The Beholders...

2009-08-06T13:07:00.006-05:00

Are there ever days you wish you were a man? I have those now and again. (Is this why I dream I have a beard? hee hee) You know, the days when you recognize that our society is biased. Yes, even in the 21st century.

Like it or not, men are readily more accepted for their physical flaws than women. And, yes, even their natural aging process. Duh. Uh, since the antediluvian era.

It's OK for them to have a paunch hanging over their belts. It's OK for then to develop "crwrinkles." It's OK for them to let their hair grow gray; it's often admired and considered distinguished. Or like my brother, Charles. He loved it when his hair turned completely white (a full head of hair, I might add).

Why do we slight women?

This is who we are as a society.

What Can We Do?
Only individually can we change it... one little step at a time.

I'm not saying that men should not be accepted no matter their senescence. I AM saying women should be allowed to be in the same genre, if you will. The same club. The same ballpark. You get the idea.

Do I have hope that we will see that in our lifetime? Not really. However, we can begin to change it in our own little worlds of influence. How? Educate, educate, educate. Model, model, model it. Get it in our own tiny heads...Get OUT the faulty thinking.

HOMEWORK: Compliment a lady today, be she young, or older. I did that the other day walking out of a movie. A seasoned lady was sitting by herself as I passed. I stopped and went back, tapped her gently on the shoulder and sincerely said, "You have on such a pretty top; you make it look beautiful!" She was clearly stunned that I would bother to stop and share such a kind thought.

We need to bother to take the time out of our busy lives to pass out generously these random acts of kindnesses. They cost us ZERO and the residuals are immeasurable.

NOTE: Maybe if I grew a beard, I could hide all my upcoming wrinkles =0

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I Overdosed!

2009-08-04T17:00:00.007-05:00

No, I'm not trying to be sexy, not hardly. Just thought you might want to see how I look when I OD. That is O.D. on vitamin D.
Need I say, OUCH?

With my fair skin, I had no business mowing four acres without greater covering.

Well, there were a few good things to come from it. I managed to not only run over weeds that were up to my waist, and the gas cap, the welcome mat (which flew in every direction, including my hubs =)), BUT a snake and a lizard. OK, so not all of those were a good thing.

I've been challenged with why in the world didn't I put sunscreen on? I responded, "Well, you don't plan when you O.D.!"

I'm not big on sunscreen anyway, but I should have had a long sleeved shirt on, not a tank top. The shirt would have protected me from flying objects, like the chunks of welcome mat as well as the debris that passersby toss out of their vehicles.

With lots of aloe, I'm now in recovery, though the process is ever so slow. For certain, Pilates will have to wait. Most of it anyway.
Have I learned my lesson? Sure. At least until next summer.

For more info on skin cancers, please click here.

Also, here is another site to check out in your spare time.

And for skin care ideas, click here.

BTW, I failed the first three things Mayo recommends:

Avoid the sun during high intensity hours: I was out between 11-2.
Wear protective clothing. The evidence is in the pic.
Use sunscreen. I did have some on my face, thankfully, but I should have had on my wide brimmed hat.

Again, don't do as I do, but as I say. Take all the precautions to protect your skin. A little vitamin D goes a long way. Too much goes the wrong way. Be Smart!

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The Hurt Locker

2009-07-25T13:17:00.006-05:00

Upon a friend of my hub's recommendation, we went to see a movie last night. The Hurt Locker. I usually check out the content before going to any movie, but on occasion, I take the chance.

Typically, any war movie is loaded with language, but hub said he was told that this one had some and that the some fit the war scenes. Little did we know, it had 75 F words, and a half a dozen or more words using God's name.

In these cases, I've been known to walk out of movies. OK, OK, so I know not all of us are offended by language in movies.

What I will tell you is that the content of the movie was more embracing than the language was offensive; a first for me. I'm not recommending that you go to see it if this type of language is offensive to you, as it is me. However, it's one of the rare occasions that I am glad I saw the movie.

Without going into detail, perhaps personal reasons invited my willingness to engage on an emotional level in spite of the overuse of questionable language. Too, it brought me to a deeper understanding of what our guys do while we sit over here in America taking for granted our freedoms. All of this put together, brought a sense of wellness to my soul. Crazy, huh?

Without question, this movie will receive awards, as it has already been nominated.

For certain, Jeremy Renner, who played Will, is my choice of leading best actor of 2009.

NOTE: In case you might be wondering, the title comes from soldiers vernacular in Iraq describing these bomb explosions as sending you to "the hurt locker." (The Hurt Locker Official Website)

Check out the website on the link above. Below is one of the trailers. Remember, if you want to hear the vid, you'll want to scroll down and turn off my playlist.

Is The Doctor In?

2009-07-23T14:44:00.003-05:00

Doc Visit Update

Many of you are calling, emailing and asking what were the results of my recent doc visit? Thanks for you continued interest. I'm thankful we can share and learn through our health challenges.

While my visit was not free of new discoveries, along with Doc suggesting that I have surgery, he was in agreement that I'm mostly in great condition. He acknowledged that I've been blessed with good health, and that I've been blessed to never have any surgeries. Thank the Lord! I've truly been protected over the years.

Have you caught up with me yet? Or are you still back there on...suggesting I have surgery? Anytime we hear knives sharpening, we wake up from our slumber, do we not?

To Knife Or Not To Knife

OK, OK, so why would he be suggesting surgery if there wasn't something terribly wrong? After all, you've heard me say he is VERY conservative.

First you have to know he is doing his job well. He would be amiss if he didn't suggest surgery with the info at hand. Remember when patients have 12-week size fibroids, most doctors insist on surgery, typically a hysterectomy.

As in anything, you have to look at the whole picture. Over all, I'm not having continued issues as many do with this challenge. I've had a few recently, but those have retreated. The typical symptoms? No. I've been fortunate. So do we just go on as though there isn't an issue to be addressed. Of course not.

I believe with my whole heart, besides God, that Pilates has spared me from suffering. Core strength is critical in situations like mine. Being in good physical condition is almost everything. And not being overweight is vital.

Of course, diet is everything as well. For example, I've heard repeatedly that red meat is not a good option if you have these types of tumors. So I rarely eat red meat. For that matter, meat, period, doesn't entice my cravings. I love veggies and fruit.

Many of you keep asking,
"What are the dangers of fibroids?" We've mentioned some of these concerns in previous articles, but as a quick review:

Extreme bleeding.
The bleeding may lead to anemia, which can be damaging and even fatal.
Pain from the pressure the fibroid may be putting on different organs.
Pain from cramping as well.
Prolapsed uterus.
Fatigue.
Bladder control due to the pressure of the fibroid.
In some cases, death, but that is usually when a person avoids a doctor's care and or they are bleeding past the point of life. By the way, the standard is if your flow is more than 6-8 pads a day, you may want to call your doctor.

So do I suffer from any of the above? No. The most I've experienced was the more than MY usual bleeding, and then only now and again.

Yet, it's not over yet. He reminded me that being a Caucasian female, who is slender in build sets me up for osteoporosis, which as he said, can be extremely detrimental to my health. My mother having it doesn't help the equation either. Yet, my generation has had the privilege of knowing better how to protect ourselves than my precious ma's generation.

My first thought when he and I discussed osteo was Pilates. I love the fact that the system offers a variety of weight bearing exercises.

Moving Right Along Into The Future
He believes women should consider a hormone replacement when the time comes. His idea, in my case, would be to use a very low dose birth control pill, and cutting the dosage in half, making it even weaker. I'm not saying I'm totally opposed to that, perhaps some day. However, I will have to do my research.

I know many of you are on various forms of hormone replacement. We each have to decide what we feel works best for our health. I'm certain, I will be exploring the natural route as always.

My Doctor: The Best
While I totally believe and trust my doc's judgment, what I truly appreciate is that he trusts my decisions. He gives me that room and is willing to work along side of me. I couldn't ask more! Sure, if it were life threatening, he certainly wouldn't be apathetic and say, "Well, Ellen, whatever you want." But the in between of very healthy and a health challenge, he has proven to respect my thoughts and wishes. Does he always like them? Of course not. But in the end, I know he is my partner.

For Now Our Plan Is:

To take it a page at a time.
For me to be in his office every 6 months and in between if I have any problems. I can do that.
And I'm to chart my daily body changes, if any. I was already doing that, so that's an easy follow-through.

So I'm good to go. And I'm feeling better than ever. Thanks for your concerns, your interest, and your prayers! Bless you.

I'm off for some core control exercises, then a dish of grapefruit, and then to a theater production a friend is taking me to for detoxing; it's a comedy.

Professor LN's Gadgets To The Rescue

2009-07-19T19:42:00.007-05:00

Like I need one more gadget. I mean, they are all over my blogsites. While those are important, every gal needs to keep up with novel kitchen gadgets. Oh, I know guys are just as needy as we are. Fess up. OK, so maybe not in the kitch, but remember, it's there that you are well fed, or at least I hope so. (By the way, I love Home Depot gadgets as well!)

Anyway, I love, love, love to cook and I never...well, I should say, rarely, use a recipe. I'm one of those dash and go people. Maybe that's why I've used Mrs. Dash for years. So gadgets that get me there quicker, are in high demand.

Moving Right Along. My Fave Gadgets For The Summer:

Williams-Sonoma nut chopper, actually called Nut Chopper. So for years my chopper was my knife in hand. And no cutting board. Antiquated, for certain. Hey, my son would say that doesn't even fall into the 21st category, but the 20th. Welcome, Ellen!

I'll blame my dear friend, Charlene, as my change-agent. While at her house the other week, I caught sight of her chopper and my instant-grat kicked right in. To my dismay, she informed me I would have to delay it. You see, she bought her chopper years ago. OK, so forget that. Until I had to go to the Apple store the other day, making a great excuse for shopping in the mall.

So W-S was neatly put in my direct path to Apple. I don't know who planned that. Well, Tiffany's was planted right there, too. Oh my. Then there was Cache. The endless line of temptations.

But W-S was my main stop. And it was there that I found this amazing nut chopper (Nut Chopper). The handle is what grabbed me. You see, I can't use choppers that you have to push with the palm of your hand, like Pampered Chef, as my wrist won't take the beating. NOTE: I love PC and use their products; the chopper just doesn't work for me.

So the handle, like Charlene's was perfect for my needs. It chops hard nuts like almonds as well as soft nuts. And I was told not only does it chop them, but it grinds them to a mini. Too, it's stainless steel, and has a non-skid base. It also has a measuring feature on the side, and, yes, it's dishwasher safe. Most of all, it's well under $16.

Moving right along, the next gadget was a veggie chop. Specifically
Vegetable Chop And Measure. While discussing its benefits to my condition with one of the associates, a friendly customer came by, having overheard my questions, and sang its praises. That sold it for me. There is just something about those whisperers that seal the deal. The bonus; It was well under $30. Honestly, it has so many features, it would take up too much of white space to detail.

Too, both of these are pretty high on the green scale. Not that their content is 100 percent clean, but the good news is you have to use elbow grease, not electricity to get results. That's counts for something, don't you think?

Check these out the next time you are near Williams-Sonoma, or take a stroll over to their website.

I did purchase one other item, but it was tad bit bigger than a gadget. More on that later! See if you can guess. It comes in many colors, shapes, and sizes, and it withstands a lot of heat.

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May I Change Careers? Well, At Least The Job Description

2009-07-14T18:44:00.003-05:00

Once again, I find myself in the minority with PMS symptoms. Cramping. However, in this case, NO cramping... in my menstrual career.

You see, ninety percent of teen girls suffer with fairly severe if not extreme severe cramping during their cycle. As many as fifty percent of women in general suffer with some type of cramping.

According to the United States Department of Health and Human Services, roughly 52 percent of women in the United States between the ages of 15 to 51 suffer from some level of menstrual cramps. Of these, 10 percent have such a severe condition as to require a doctor visit. Statistics from the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology reveal that menstrual cramping represents the number one cause of missed school and work days among women. In fact, menstrual cramping accounts for an astonishing 140 million hours of lost school and work every year. Fresh Patents.com

And, yes, I said career. Starting from a very early age, 11 to be exact, I have soared through my career without a glitch. That is until just a few years ago when the my trusted doc sounded an alarm. Now why would he do such a thing?

His Concern?
A fast-growing large fibroid tumor. Let's just leave out the rest of the details for now. I elected to stay the course of avoiding knives, instead using supplements and life style changes; it worked, for about six years! All the extreme bleeding ceased as well as any pain. By the way, the pain was not due to cramping. And I was able to sleep effortlessly through the night without waking up feeling pressure to dash to the potty! OK, so TMI? I doubt it. Hey, these are real life issues and remember my objective is to bring wellness to your front door. In this case, your screen-door!

Then yesterday came and impolitely changed my carefully orchestrated plan. Again, I'll spare you the graphics, other than saying...OUCH. Enter: Cramps defright.

Rewinding Six Years: The day I was jolted into finding out about this uninvited guest, I ran home to dig into my well of resources. What and why was this foreign object invading my body? What did I find?

Fibroids At A Glance

They are also known as uterine myomas.
No one REALLY knows why fibroids develop. Yes, there are theories. I feel there is a combination of dynamics that create fertile ground, as in most any health challenge.
The majority are benign. My doc told me in his 30+ years of practice, he'd only had maybe one case where the fibroid was cancerous.
About thirty percent of women have them.
They develop mostly in our late 30s and early 40s.
Many times they disappear after menopause. This and the previous note might suggest that estrogen has something to do with their uninvited habitations.
They are not always lone rangers; a person may have scores of fibroids.
African American Women are five times more likely to develop them than Caucasian women.
In some cases, they do "run" in families. Yes, my ma had them and at 45 had a partial hysterectomy. NOTE: This was immediately after the traumatic untimely death of my dad. Some call it "The Weeping Womb".
In close to half the cases, no symptoms surface and in many cases the person will not even be aware that they have them until the doc discovers them during a routine exam.
Unless the fibroid is large, typically a woman will have little or no trouble.
In some cases, there will be issues with extreme bleeding, break through bleeding, and cramping.
Other problems like anemia, and fatigue due to blood loss may develop.
Fibroids can develop wherever they choose along the interior muscular wall as well as the exterior of the uterus.
The cervix may house fibroids as well.
Depending on the location, they can cause discomfort and or pain. They can press on other organs causing pressure and pain and even block the urethra, causing kidney obstruction.
When a fibroid grows to a 12-week size, typically the doc will recommend a hysterectomy. However, 21st century doctors are not as quick to pull out the knife, but are searching for other methods to deal with the dilemma.

What Are Our Options?

The only way to truly cure them is a hysterectomy. About thirty percent of hysterectomies are performed to remove fibroids permanently.
Myomectomy is another type of surgery that leaves the females organs in place. Some choose this as they are still in child bearing years.

Ablation is the chosen method for some.

Hysteroscopy is prescribed by some doctors. Again, this is less invasive than a hysterectomy, but again, you will need to do extensive research as to whether this is the best method for you.

Uterine Fibroid Embolization This is a non-surgical new kid on the block. You might want to check it out as well. It does have its drawbacks as in any of these measures.

Hormone therapy, which I would caution you to research extensively before proceeding.
Some doctors prescribe taking the Pill and some are in hopes that RU 486 will find its way to our drug counters as a means to control the challenges with fibroids. Both of these, in my opinion, are risky as with most any med. They all have their side effects.

There are a number of books on fibroids you might want to check out. What Your Doctor May NOT Tell You About Fibroids by Goodwin and Broder. Sex, Lies, and The Truth About Uterine Fibroids by Dionne. Fibroids by Skilling. The First Year Fibroids by Skilling. Most of these may be found at Amazon as well as other bookstores. I can't give you a serious critique as I have not read them extensively, but what I have read, at least it will give you a start in exploring your options.

As Always We Should Never Forget Looking At A Natural Route

Women Living Naturally gives you ideas you might want to consider.
Earth Clinic gives other natural options.
Other sources: Natural Cures Guide.
EnzineArticles.
Using Magnetic therapy.

Speaking Of Natural Measures

I mentioned that the decision I made years ago was holistic. Many of you have inquired through the years what I did to have such great success. While I do believe spiritually God has everything taken care of, He has given me a mind and a will. OK, so we aren't going to debate the free will thing!

What I know is that I made a concerted effort to change my life style. I quit doing a man's job on my four acres. Well, I quit most of it.
I began a healthy diet of supplements.
I de-stressed.
I added Pilates to my life at maximum levels.
Then I made better attempts of eating more. You see, I can go forever and not eat. I know, I know, it's a little weird. But so goes my life.
Too, I must mention that I had been through a major life crisis when this lovely uninvited visitor arrived. I'm one of those who believe stress rips into our health.

Are There Any Warranties?

Besides the hysterectomy, none of these options guarantee that the fibroid (s) will not return. Research tells us that there is about a fifty percent chance that a new tumor will form later. Most of the women I have counseled with have reported that the fibroids indeed came back and many times even larger.

Too, it is reported that many of the surgical procedures recovery processes are more painful than a hysterectomy. Again, I have heard direct testimony to this from the many ladies I've coached through the years.

But for those who are still in child bearing years and want to conceive, what other choice do they have? Yes, there are meds available now that, again, do NOT cure fibroids, but may keep them at bay for a time. Resource: Prescription to Nutritional Healing 2nd edition. If you purchase this book, look for the 4th edition as I believe, it's the newest.

So Where Do I Go From Here?

To the doctor, where else? While I typically take the natural route, doctors play a huge role in diagnoses.

Wisdom clearly directs us to give qualified doctors opportunity to see if they can be a part of the discovery. Then what we do with their information is up to us. Unfortunately, I've had some ladies call looking for answers but refusing to go to the doctor. A few of those precious ladies ended up dead or near dead in ER with an emergency hysterectomy.

In the meantime, I'm chilling out, taking quality supplements, abandoning stress as much as I'll allow. Exercising. Comforting myself by using the Pilates Shell Stretch (love it). Now for the last thing, brace yourself: Sipping on some raw apple cider vinegar. I only use Braggs. Oh, and asking my hub to bring me some food! hee hee!

I'll keep you posted.

Biker Gal Says, Look Out Lance!

2009-07-10T17:24:00.005-05:00

My goal in buying a bike was to find something around $100. I know, I know, I may regret that decision. But for now, it will have to do.

After I discover whether this is something I truly want to add to my exercise diet, I may upgrade. Look out Lance!

My son thought I should get a
retro bike. You know, the ones that look like the 1950s. I found a Schwinn that was awesome and reasonably priced, but it didn't get the final vote.

While I liked the retro bikes, I was drawn to an off-road bike. Being that we don't live in the city, I knew my travels would entail more than a fluid ride down a comfortable side walk.

Besides, I liked the colors. You guessed it: Pink and white (photo). Isn't that a priority when buying something you are going to be wearing?

When my hub got home, I told him I had a surprise to show him, so we took a walk on the outside. There sat my newest item of interest on my journey to health. He looked it over closely. I had warned him not to scrutinize. He said, "Well, what are you going to do with it???"

OK, moving right along, trying not to read between the lines, I responded, "Well, I'm going to RIDE it!"

So those are my plans.

Warnings In The Manual
The next day, I decided to read the manual. You can imagine the stress levels that ignited. So much health. Actually, it wasn't too bad, until I stumbled upon one statement:

Rules Of The Road And Safety Tips: #4 PROP 65 WARNING. This product may contain chemicals that are known to the state of California to cause cancer, birth defects, and other reproductive harm.

Lovely.

So we can't even ride or purchase a bike without toxic exposure to the very thing we are trying to protect, our wellness?

I began to do my research on Prop 65. Yes, we all know Cali is known for setting stringent safety standards, but I can live with that.

Here's What I Found:

Click here for Prop 65 info.

I set out to find what questionable chemicals were supposed to be in my bike. The OEHHA(Office of Environmental Health Hazard Assessment)site noted that you needed to contact the company you purchased the item from if you want to know expressively what chemicals of concern are involved.

OK, I could do that. I found the 800 number. Called. Not only was there no answer, there was no recording.

Wow. I dialed again just to make sure I had done so correctly, only to find the same untidy results. As I looked a little closer, I found that the company is the supplier to the name brand. Imported from China.

The actual company that distributes the bike, at least, had a recording, but there was no answer as it was a holiday. So I sent an email with my questions. I was prepared for no response, and if there was one, I was certain it would be tardy.

As the consumer, I could only hope to find why the warning? Was I concerned? Not really. But therein may be the problem. Too many of us don't worry. I think perhaps it's because we are inundated with toxin warnings, creating apathy.

UPDATE
I received a nice email with a number to call. Made the call. The customer service person, Jon, told me I would have to call the "other" company that makes these bikes since mine didn't match with theirs. OK. He informed me that there are two companies that sell this bike.

I called the other company. The service person said I needed to call the "other" company since my model # didn't match theirs. Hummm.

Inquisitively, I said, "I just called them. They told me to call you. So are you suggesting I call them back and tell them that you told me to call them back?" Weird stuff, folks.

She stumbled around and said, "Let's see, well, turn the bike upside down and tell me what the number is." And why didn't she ask me to do this in the first place? Oh, yeah, I forgot, this is customer service.

Indeed, it was their bike. So I asked her about Prop 65. She was clueless, but said she'd ask her supervisor. I waited. She came back with some jargon that, "Those California people are just nutty..." OK, I get that, but I wanted to know what danger was inscribed on my bike.

"It's in the paint" she said. But that's all she knew, other than it could be a micro amount. Regardless, if they sell to Cali, the company has to list the warning. I understood that. So I told her, I'd probably not be gnawing on it any time soon. She suggested I not sleep with it either. At this point, we were laughing as we made our point.

So What's the Biker Gal To Do?

Truth is, I'm exposed to more toxins the minute I get in my car than sitting on that bike.

Nothing comes free anymore. Nothing that is, that's truly green and clean. Not even exercise in the open fresh air...

Did I tell you about the air pollution concern in my area? Oh my...so the endless pit of toxins greets us everyday, everywhere.

Where's my antioxidant?

Note: Some people believe wooden bikes have fewer toxic issues. What of wooden bikes, click here? Check out this site as well.

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The Raw Facts

2009-07-08T16:50:00.005-05:00

Cookie Dough, Anyone?
We've all heard the e.coli scare, in everything from peanut butter, meat, tomatoes, to spinach, but now, cookie dough?

OK, so does that mean I can't eat raw cookie dough anymore?

According to an article Dr. Marion Nestle wrote addressing the issue, "the tally has reached 66 victims in 28 states: 25 hospitalizations, 7 with severe complications, no deaths." (06/19/09) The victims were mostly young and female. According to the experts, that simply means children at home with their moms are the most exposed. Well, duh. Sorry.

Unfortunately, we lose even the good with the bad. In order to get rid of a minuscule, the government requires that mega more be destroyed, as they would call it, protection. The perfect example: Nestle recalled over 300,ooo cases of their cookie dough (as of mid June). Obviously, not all of the packages were contaminated.

Just this morn on a news reporting radio station, they were interviewing a list of prof on the matter. The quandary: What is the source of the problem? You may not know that the ingredient, if you will, causing the problem, is not just ecoli, but E. coli D 0157:H7. You can read more info on the following site.

What the experts are saying is, they don't know exactly how E. coli D 0157:H7 was birthed into the cookie dough. They don't believe it's from the eggs, after all, eggs are supposed to be pasteurized. Regardless, eggs don't carry this "brand" of e.coli, but cow manure does. Tasty. What flavor of cookies would that be? Doolicious. Shoolicious? Fecielicious? Crapolicious? Stinkolicious? OK, OK, give it up, L!

Seriously, the alarm is that this particular e.coli is slightly more potent. E. coli D 0157:H7 is supposed to be more harmful, even damaging the kidneys.

The other concern is that D 0157:H7 in the cookies can be spread from counter to counter, item to item, causing more health issues.

A caller on the program asked if people are just really that stupid...to eat it raw? Hey, she's talking about me!

Also, the question was posed if there was enough warning on the products? The Nestle warning or suggestion says, "Cookie dough contains raw ingredients. Bake before consuming." Market Pantry's caution is a little more demanding: Do not eat unbaked cookie dough..." Let's see if Nestle follows suit.

Click here to see which Nestle cookies you should return.
I checked mine, and all is good. I guess I should go back to making them from scratch? By the way, Nestle voluntarily gave the recall for their products. Good for them.

All this is making me hungry for...COOKIES! There is nothing like a delish cookie, straight off my Pampered Chef Stone, just ask my son's friends! I like mine a little more on the doughy side, while the guys like them brown and crunchy. So, there you go, another female at higher risk.

So am I going to quit eating cookie dough? No. No more than I'm going to quit licking the bowl after I mix up a cake and put it in a pan. I've done it for XX years, do you really think I'm going to stop now? I have greater concerns to address like...

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The Ride of Your Life

2009-07-03T15:10:00.006-05:00

Recently, I decided to purchase a bike. With two wheels. And no motor!
Perhaps this was prompted by my decision to purchase a bike for my grand daughter who was turning three. As with my children, I wanted her to be exposed to a bike early on.

My oldest daughter learned at five years old. She learned quickly. I can still see her on that pink banana seat Huffy riding around and around on the back patio and front driveway.

My son's bike arrived when he was five. However, he decided he didn't care if he ever learned to ride. This was after a few failed attempts with his dad as a teacher. Case and point: Not everyone was created to be an instructor.

Not willing to accept this faulty excuse, I quietly responded, "Well, here's the deal, Son, you are going to learn. Then if you choose to never ride again, that's your choice." What else are parents for than to see the bigger picture?

Dragging his feet, that very day we went to the backyard. Yes, yard, with all of it's lumps and bumps.

The first thing I did was remove the training wheels. Those are just hindrances, in my opinion.

The next step: A few runs with me along side of him, holding him up as we dashed across the yard.

Followed by starting him off with me by his side and then letting him go on his own. Yes, he tumbled and fell. See, cushy grass does come in handy.

He was not happy. That's OK. I can deal with unhappiness. So without much choice, he knew this parent was not going to let him give up.

Back to the track, to his dismay. Little did he know the best was just minutes away from his reach.

An hour or so later, he was experiencing what it felt like to balance himself without any crutch on his new mode of transportation. Let freedom ring!

From that day forward, he recounted his earlier decision: He updated to riding a bike the rest of his life.

The really neat thing is that not only did he learn to ride, but the greater lesson was about life: Never give up on something you think you can't do. I can't tell you the times when he's come up against a challenge bigger than life, and all I've had to do is say, "Remember the bike." With that simple phrase, he knew the bumps and bruises would only prove to soon be badges of success.

But what determined me with such passion for my children? For one, I never was given the opportunity to learn to ride a bike. My parents didn't teach me. Not that they were being neglectful. I'm not certain about my dad, but I know my mom never learned how to ride a bike. And my older brothers thought I was too delicate to be involved in such activities.

So at the ripe age of almost 12, I borrowed a neighbor's bike and set out to teach myself in the front yard. Looking back, picking the back yard might have been a better choice. I'm certain my neighbors were provided free entertainment, at my own expense. I never knew it, but then I wouldn't have cared. My passion to become one with the bike took over any sense of pride.

NEXT POST: What bike did I choose? What alarming news I discovered once I purchased the bike.

Here's Ed!!!!!!!!

2009-06-25T09:59:00.002-05:00

We've all been disturbed concerning the tragic news of untimely deaths this week. Michael Jackson and Farah Fawcett.

But did anyone notice Ed McMahon died earlier this week, a more normal death, and has been given little attention? By the way, did you know he was a decorated Marine fighter pilot in WWII as well as the Korean War? I'd say that should have made headlines over all the "other" hoopla. Sorry, folks, I do struggle with our value system.

For a delightful interview with Ed, click here.

We Are Celebrity Junkies, For Sure.
Do you ever question why? Do we not have enough to do with our time? Do we not have enough heroes and heroines in our own lives to applaud and be interested in? Think about it.

But on a little different note...

What's The Healthy Side?
The following article was sent to me by a friend, and it seemed appropriate to share on this forum. We are looking to find ways to be well, not temporary chronic solutions for our illnesses, are we not? With that as a backdrop, it makes healthy sense to look into alternatives.

While I may not agree with every alternative available, I would be foolish to dismiss the possibilities of finding other ways to be well. Other ways than completely trusting my life to legal toxic drugs given by the medical industry. Notice, I said completely.

Up front, I do believe we need doctors. I just don't believe it's wise to blindly deliver our lives into the hands of an industry that is proving it's more about treating symptoms than providing cures. Wake up, America!

NaturalNews Reports
That Michael Jackson and Farrah Fawcett both died in the last 8 hours is shocking news to many, but it's not nearly as surprising as the fact that they were both killed by Big Pharma's toxic drugs.

Michael Jackson, we now know, died from an injection of Demerol given by his doctor -- a man who is now the subject of an LAPD manhunt. There is little question that the injection of Demerol -- a potent pharmaceutical -- caused Jackson's death. Chalk it up to yet another tragic loss of a hugely inspiring artist who has become a victim of the pharmaceutical industry and overzealous medical doctors.

Demerol, by the way, is a highly-potent opioid drug that's also highly addictive. And yet it's being prescribed (and injected) by doctors with the full support of the FDA, the pharmaceutical industry and the conventional medical community. It is nothing less than amazing that mild drugs like marijuana remain outlawed while potentially deadly painkiller drugs like Demerol are openly injected into people by doctors.

Farrah Fawcett's death was far less sudden than Jackson's, but no less innocent. She was killed by chemotherapy -- a toxic cocktail of chemicals pushed onto patients by oncologists who deceptively call it "treatment."

Against the advice of many in the natural health community, Fawcett gave in to her doctors and agreed to be poisoned as a treatment for anal cancer. But what she didn't know is that one of the most common side effects of chemotherapy is more cancer! And after subjecting her body to more chemotherapy, it wasn't long before Fawcett was diagnosed with liver cancer. (Chemotherapy causes terrible harm to the liver, heart, kidneys and brain...)

Before long, her suppressed immune system and ongoing poison treatments overcame her body's natural healing ability, and she died (as yet another victim of chemotherapy). Her doctors, of course, claim she "died of cancer." Clever huh?

Cancer doctors operate with that sort of clever deception: If the cancer goes away, they claim the patient was "treated by the medicine," but if the patient dies, they claim "the cancer killed them." It's pretty easy to claim success if you take credit for the wins while fleeing the any responsibility for the losses.

Back to Farrah, while many of her friends and supporters say her battle with cancer was "an inspiration," let me be the first to publicly state that to me, poisoning yourself with toxic chemicals is NOT inspiring, no matter how much suffering you go through. I do not believe that people should be given special recognition for pain and suffering they consciously choose to inflict upon themselves, especially when all that suffering is easily avoidable. It would have been far more "inspiring" for Farrah to choose healing remedies instead of deadly poisons.

Had she chosen natural remedies, she could have skipped all the pain and suffering, restored her immune function, reversed her cancer and gone on to live a much longer and more abundant life. (It would have saved her a small fortune in medical costs, too...)

But she didn't choose natural health (nutrition, vitamin D, immune support, superfoods and medicinal herbs). Instead, she chose poison. As a result, her decision to ravage her body's health through "slash and burn" medicine ultimately cost more than her body could afford to pay.

Keeping the public in the dark
What's especially sad about all this is that the conventional medical trade groups, the drug companies and the FDA are all conspiring to keep consumers ignorant of natural cancer remedies. So Farrah Fawcett almost certainly did not have easy access to the kind of information about natural remedies that could have saved her life. She would have had to read NaturalNews or other good sources of truthful information about natural solutions for cancer like Gerson Therapy (www.Gerson.org).

But this is all by design: Truthful information about natural remedies for cancer is intentionally oppressed by the medical establishment. Those who dare to offer health products with accurate descriptions about their anti-cancer attributes are threatened with arrest and imprisonment by the FDA and FTC (http://www.naturalnews.com/024246_cancer_the_FTC_cancer_industry.html...). The very best doctors who can really cure cancer have been either thrown in prison or run out of the country (which is why all the best cancer clinics in the world aren't located in the United States).

The medical industrial complex, in other words, has conspired to keep the American people uninformed and diseased, making them dependent on the for-profit medical system that dominates modern medicine. That Farrah Fawcett actually made a conscious decision to allow her body to be destroyed by chemotherapy is an indication of just how insidious and manipulative our conventional medical system really is.

Instead of giving patients options, it limits their options and gives them death. Instead of educating patients about how to prevent and reverse cancer, our medical system de-educates patients and seeks to isolate them from knowledge of natural remedies. Instead of empowering patients, it seeks to control and profit from patients. It is a failed system that kills celebrities just as mercilessly as it kills those who aren't famous at all.

And unless we change our approach to healing cancer, more people will continue to die as victims of dangerous prescription drugs and failed chemotherapy "treatments."

Because whether you're famous or not, chemotherapy is still poison.

My Thoughts:
This is by no means a slam on FF and MJ. They both provided a wealth of entertainment and talent since the 70s. I grew up with them. I enjoyed watching them as much as anyone.

MJ
While I understand MJ's pain from having an abusive father (those are the accusations), many of you have had similar stories and worse, but you didn't choose to go the route he did. He did choose.

I lost respect when he was repeatedly in trouble for making young boys his unhealthy attraction. He needed therapy, and he chose not to spend his money on mental health. I can over look a lot of things with celebrities and their vices, but not this one. I just can't. If Joe Smith down the street had this issue, we would paint neon signs around his house saying, "Keep Away, Child Molester". Let's not have a double standard. Let's call it for what it is.

MJ had problems and needed help. But he clearly had the control to do as he pleased. He made it crystal from the words he left on his album, "I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my
soul."

FF
I don't need to speak for Farah's life, it speaks for itself. Concerning NN's article: While I agree with most of it, I would say that I do believe she did begin to search for alternatives to cure her cancer, but was a little too late.

I, like NN, don't see her dying videos as overwhelmingly inspirational. Maybe she did do them to help others. Only God knows that and whether the ones around her were truly in it for the purest of reasons. I would hope so. But inspiration for me is found right in our own neighborhoods, our churches, our schools, our communities. Let's begin to look there first.

Faves: Ed MaMahon: Playing the side-kick on The Johnny Carson Show and doing it with finesse.
FF: The Burning Bed
MJ: Farewell My Summer Love - Listen to the video below. You may need to turn off my playlist at the bottom of this page first.

Help Is On The Way???

2009-06-24T17:10:00.001-05:00

Help Is On The Way!

I love that song. You may have heard of it on Preacher's Wife with Whitney Houston. It's been my plea for the last few months.

What Kind Of Help?
The new Microsoft 7 will arrive on the shelves Oct. 22, according to sources on the Net. Let's pray it will contribute to our wellness. I know I need a healthy dose after purchasing a new computer with Vista. I even hear the word, and I cringe.

As I write, my still shiny computer, is quickly dulling my senses. HELP! I'm so ready to upgrade, even if it costs me a week's earnings.

I'm trusting help is indeed on its way!

Great Song...Turn off my playlist at the bottom of the page before listening to the video!

Good Bye Mr Analog TV, Thanks For The Memories!

2009-06-12T09:27:00.005-05:00

More than one million homes will NOT be prepared today for the 60 year old analog TV to be forever in the achieves of history.

Coupons are available from the govt. if you need a converter box for your analog TV. Click here for more detail.

Crash and Learn or Whip Out The Lash!

2009-06-08T18:41:00.008-05:00

Amazing how you can crash and burn at the airport, having never left the ground.

You know, fly 2500 feet without so much as a whimper (see previous post), yet be only 5'11 from the ground and find yourself at one with with mother earth.

Welcome to my world.

OK, so what does this pic have to do with problems at the airport? Really, nothing! But it makes my point...you just never know what's going to happen when you are goofing around and having too much fun.

Seriously, though, how do these things happen? And to me? I think it must "run" in the family. Right, Becki (niece)? Hee hee! I think I should include April (daughter) in on that. Did I mention my bro? And for sure, Ma. We seem to have a rich history in gracefully planting our butts on the ground without warning.

I love the story April tells about walking along with her friend and co-worker at the time, Richard, who's about 6'4 or so. They were chatting away and suddenly he noticed when he turned to continue the conversation, she was no longer along side of him. Confused, he began to look around, only to find his precious eight-months pregnant friend about 5 feet or so behind him sitting ever so sweetly on the floor. Yep, she had quietly landed on the floor without a hint. Well, except of course, her disappearance.

What Happened While Flying Through The Hanger
Fast-forwarding to just a few days ago. I was minding my own business after a morning of helping out at the airport, amidst well over 1000 people, when I decided to stop and take a pic of sweet Cole while he was vying for the pancake lady to toss him his breakfast . Accomplished. But I wasn't satisfied. So I took another step back to get a better shot, when out of nowhere some invisible force swooshed right underneath me, knocked me off my feet and smacked me onto the cold, hard, but smooth floor.

Yelp, there I was in all my glory, sprawled out like one of the missed pancakes that splattered to the floor, not the plate.

I heard gasps rush across that large hanger and then felt a flood of people around me as if I were hurt or something. Hub and strangers. Then as if in a paranormal whisper, I hear, "I'm a paramedic, let me help." And before grasping why I would need a paramedic, I felt this strange swelling impression. On my head! Accompanying it was a blazing fiery sensation...and not just on my head, but my gluteus max. And maybe even my minimus. Butt, nothing felt minimal at that point. Okey, dokey, so maybe I was hurt!

I'm not one to make a scene, nor do I like attention drawn in my direction. But then who does in gigs such as this? Regardless, you know all eyes are on you at this shamelessly naked moment.

But I do know how to laugh at myself. You learn this at an early age when trouble seems to follow you. You either cry or pretend this really isn't "you", or this is just a nightmare, or...laugh. Laughing seems to work the best for me. Only this time, I couldn't seem to draw a smile on my face. Everything being a little blurry might have created the impasse. You think?!

All I wanted was to get this thing over with and get the move on to the next event, and one that was not focused on me...horizontally, hugging the floor.
I recall saying, "I'm fine, just help me get up!!!!" Vertical once again, I drew deep inside my psyche for inner guidance to thwart the demands of pride goes AFTER a fall syndrome. Forget the "before" thing. hee hee.

Trying not to make any contact with the sea of eyes fixated upon me, I charted my course without any stops to my trusty destination: A chair facing the opposite direction from any onlookers. Surely, I was kidding myself. No matter. It's what's in the mind that does...matter, that is.

On A More Serious Note
Honestly, it was the recent death of Natasha Richardson, rather than the jolting pain, that flashed through my head. It was then that I began to understand the concerns of those around me.

If you recall, Natasha was in a "simple" skiing accident on what some might call a "bunny hill" (where beginners practice). She fell and hit her head, with no outward symptoms, so she chose to go on about her day, not realizing she was a walking time bomb. She died just a day later.

The autopsy revealed an epidural hematoma as the cause. Now had she chosen to go to the hospital as was recommended, might she have lived? It seems a possibility. Too, the only hospital with the kind of trauma she had was 60 miles away, hindering her hope.

So What Is Epidural Hematoma?

The dura is the lining that surrounds the brain and spinal cord. A person with an epidural hematoma has a collection of blood between the dura and the skull. The collection of blood places pressure against the brain, which can cause the brain to malfunction. Free Med

The condition is present in one to three percent of head injuries.[1] Between 15 and 20 percent of patients with epidural hematomas die of the injury.[2] (Wikipedia) A different source states that the percentage of death is between 5 and 40 percent, and 1 to 2 percent of people treated with head injury experience epidural hematomas in the U.S.. It is rare.

Symptoms:
While there can be pronounced symptoms in the immediate, there are cases, such as in Natasha's, that people won't experience any alarming evidence on the front end. Unfortunately. Every undiagnosed second could mean a step closer to death.

However, symptoms typically occur within a few hours, if not sooner. Just remember that in some cases, it could be more than just hours but days before a red flag alerts attention.

Physical findings in someone with an epidural hematoma may include:

Large scalp hematoma (like a raised knot)
Skull deformity:
A dent or depressed area on the skull (depressed skull fracture)
Visible skull fracture through a scalp wound
Abnormal eye muscle exam
Abnormal eye pupil exam
Confusion
Difficulty speaking
Difficulty walking
Lethargy:
A condition of excessive sleepiness or drowsiness.
Memory loss
Numbness in one arm or leg:
Arm numbness (unilateral)
Leg numbness (unilateral)
Arm and leg numbness (unilateral)
Weakness in one arm or leg:
Arm weakness (unilateral)
Leg weakness (unilateral)
Arm and leg weakness (unilateral)
Papilledema:
Evidence of increased brain pressure on eye exam The diagnosis of epidural hematoma must be confirmed through testing.

Tests that may be used to evaluate epidural hematoma include:

CT scanning of the brain:
Usually shows an acute bleed
MRI scanning of the brain
Skull x-rays

Always remember that any head injury needs attention, whether great or small.

Recovering With Flying Colors
Some of you have been and or now are wondering did I have my head checked out? Well, my brother has been wondering about that for years. Tee hee, right Bro? Actually, since he knocked me off the piano bench when I was a mere, what, 18 months old? Funny thing is, I always thought I just "fell" off by myself.

But all fun aside, looking back, it appears that my mother was more savvy than most by rushing me to ER. By the way, everything checked-out OK. So, Bro., that can't be your "tale" of why I'm the wild and crazy lady I am today!

Back to my fall this past week-end. I'm in recovery, with a few nicks and bumps. My head still has a nice sized hemo thingy, but it's coming in handy as it's masking my cow-lick, that I complain about so often. My son asked me if that would take care of it permanently. Too funny.

And, yes, my head is VERY sore and tender. Though I admit, the greater pain resides in my neck. Yes, a pain in the neck. Oh my. The rest of my anatomy seems to have survived quite well. Thanks to...you know...PILATES. I promise you, it makes all the difference in the world. Money back guaranteed.

And, no, I didn't go into to ER to have my head scanned. So don't do as I do, do as I say, and you'll be much better off, at least in this cases. Let's hope I make it. I'll let you know. Until then, stay on your feet!

Thanks for your concerns and prayers.

Check out this site as well for more info.

NOTE: The paramedic did NOT suggest I have my head checked. Therefore, I think she should, because that's a law suit ready to happen (I don't mean by me). From what I understand, paramedics should always recommend a trip to ER when there is a head injury.

High Times Flying With Cheetah

2009-06-06T15:38:00.014-05:00

Have you ever flown like a Cheetah??? (Not to be confused with Cheeta, Tarzan's buddy.) How about "in" a Cheetah?

OK, OK, so I'm referring to the Grumman-American Cheetah.

Still not familiar? This is an unusual animal. As most cheetahs, it flies pretty fast. But this one leaves the ground just a tad bit. By a few thousand feet.

Today, I was provided an awesome opportunity to jump on one and take flight. It's not every day a gal gets to ride a Cheetah.

Yes, it's been awhile since I was behind de yoke. No yoke. =) Especially, not in a Cheetah. (Cessna, yes). So there was some adjustment.

Taxing in a Cheetah was especially challenging, and not just because it's been a few years since I've been in the seat of a cockpit. It has a castering nose-wheel and that was unfamiliar to me. I must've looked like I had a few drinks as I weaved my way down the runway. hee hee. But Don, my well seasoned pilot, was ever so patient.

Don had no prob in turning the plane over to me; I was the one resisting. But being the fast-paced person that I am, I didn't take any time increasing altitude. As a matter of fact, a little bit sooner than planned. But he didn't mind, he just shrugged it off as we'd just rise to the occasion a little sooner to be able to cruise. Sure! The winds were not as friendly as the skies are supposed to be. So we bumped and bounced on our way to the top of about 2500 feet.

I've always relished in the two most dangerous aspects of flying...take-off and landing. And Don performed them to perfection, all the while including me in on the adventure.

It was a more than a refresher course, and Don was certain it wouldn't take me long to dive back into flying. That wasn't such a comfy pun, now was it? Don, by the way, was a commercial pilot for years as well as a CFI (certified flight instructor).

But I've decided flying is not my "thang" anymore. Yes, I do love to jump on a plane or a helicopter now and again for an invigorating high! However, I left that chapter a long time ago. Well, closed, with only glimpses of intriguing memories of my studies in aviation. I will forever cherish those days.

And I'll always be soooo very proud of myself for passing the FAA exam with "flying" colors. There was a time I never mentioned it for concern that someone might think I was being a little proud. Now, I'm getting old enough to not inhibit myself for others. Life is just too short to not appreciate all the work you put into something. And I did just that with aviation, as I have in other studies.

The temptation is no longer there. I guess I passed it all onto my son. And I'm more than glad to leave it there. He will do well with it.

I'm the one here on the bottom trying to keep up with my son!!!! hee hee. You go, Son!!!!!

PHOTO: Taken with my Iphone while taking off...

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The Tractor Teaser

2009-05-27T10:09:00.001-05:00

While on vacation, back to my homeland, I was provided the opportunity to try out a new vehicle. I'm used to driving in the open air, in my convertible, but this was a whole new genre.

The new mode of transport, as you can see, was a tractor. How fun! I have a ZTR I use on my property, but it doesn't have the excitement of shifting gears. ah ha!

As you can see, I couldn't pass up an opportune moment to do Pilates. Even more fun. I suppose this is a sort of Tractor Teaser! Only, I forgot to add the other leg. Or my photographer took the pic too soon.

But there is such a thing as a One-Leg Teaser, for those of us who are on a learning curve. Believe me, a full Pilates Teaser is not so easily performed. Hmm. Maybe I should incorporate the tractor as a prop in my next class. hee hee

Before I conclude this session, I couldn't resist sharing one other photo. Priceless, don't you think? I was definitely having way more fun than I needed to. I think!

When I saw this next shot, I burst out in near tears of laughter. So I expect you to, also!!!!! You clearly have my permission. Just don't lose control of your core.

Until next time... your trusty Pilates entertainer!

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Do Women Have The Right To...

2009-05-20T16:10:00.000-05:00

Have you ever heard something like, "Is that the 1611 you are reading?" Many of you know the reference is to the King James authorized version of the Bible. But did you know that the first major revision of the Bible, in 1895, was by a woman? Katherine Cady Stanton. The Women's Bible.

So was that a good thing? Clearly the revision was for more than spiritual matters. As one noted speaker stated, "Ms Stanton didn't like what the Bible conveyed about women, so she rewrote it to fit her own personal views." She had an agenda and the Bible got in her way. Feeling the Bible devolved...demeaned women, she set out to rearrange its gender differentiation.

Publishing her rendition caused her reputation to be questioned. Remember, this was the 1800s. While her audience embraced fighting for the rights of women, they were not as interested in battling with God and the King James. So she lost some of her devoted followers, but that did not deter her will to conquer the misfortunes of women at that time in history.

A Brief Backdrop

Katherine grew up with the influence of a well-educated father, an attorney and politician. She was a brilliant young woman, who would have probably pursued being an attorney had the era allowed it. As would be the standard of the time, her brother did what she was not afforded. He died at about age 20, which left her dad devastated as he was the only living son he had.

She notes that she comforted her dad telling him that she would set out to be all that he could have wanted in a son. To her utter dismay, her dad replied, "Oh my, daughter, I wish you were a boy!!"

Another encounter with a man that changed her life was with well known minister, Charles Finney. She became a great admirer of his teachings. However, his thoughts on hell and damnation began to wear on her mind, so much so that she chose to abandon Christianity.

Perhaps these two events in her life influenced her desire to go forth and conquer a man's world, even to the point of rewriting the Bible.

Yet another note of interest: While she succumbed to the need to be married (1840), she refused to say "obey" in the wedding ceremony as it was clearly contradictory to her cause. Being equal left no room for such. By the way, if you are coming from a Biblical view, the Bible says submission, not obedience. And it also says we are to submit one to another. But let's not argue about that. At least not today!

And Katherine did choose to bear children. Seven. The last at age 44! She made it clear that she elected to have children, not just acquiescing to sex for propagation purposes to fulfill some womanly duty.

Partners In The "Right" Time

Her partner in the suffrage movement that you may be more familiar with: Susan B. Anthony. While they didn't always see things the same issue-to-issue, they continued to work together for many years (some 50 years) for the cause of women's rights.

While Ms Anthony may have been the more conservative of the two, if there is such a thing. She was not a part of the group of women with Stanton who rewrote the Bible to fit their agenda. And it seems she benefited from that as people began to revere her once Ms Stanton published her new Bible for women.

Too, Ms Anthony was an avid anti-abortionist. From her own lips, "When a woman destroys the life of her unborn child, it is a sign that, by education or circumstances, she has been greatly wronged." (1869) Some would argue that she fought for the rights of women to have say over their bodies and would have wanted abortions to be legal. We can decorate it all we want, but the reality is, she did not agree with abortion. Note, she said, "...destroys the LIFE of her UNBORN child."

Her concern was more why women got into the situation causing them to consider abortion. She felt that if women were afforded the same rights as men, abortion would not be an issue. Hmmmm. I guess she missed the mark there. Here we are in the 21st century, and women have all the rights Ms Anthony fought for and more, along with legal abortion on demand, in "safe" conditions. Yet, women are still "destroying the life of their unborn children" as Ms Anthony noted how many years ago? So what would she say today? That we can argue, but we will NEVER know.

Both, Katherine and Susan, fell into prejudice at times, claiming that the white woman would make better decision makers than black men would. While they were all for freeing slaves, they were frustrated that black men were being afforded the right to vote, while women were not.

Complementing Each Other

Katherine was the brain behind the speaking, even writing many of Ms Anthony's speeches. Ms Anthony, on the other hand, was the force behind the organization of events, etc. Susan, being unmarried and no children had a greater opportunity to travel and speak, while Katherine being married with children (seven) was limited. But they were wise in they each played out their gifts, creating a perfect match for success in the political world.

My View

While I'm grateful for the women who paved the way for me having freedom to be equal with my male counterparts, I'm certainly not on the same page as they in many of their given philosophies. Yet, there is much to be learned from these women, no matter if we agree with them or not. I think it's more a matter of how and what we will do to preserve our rights.

Will we angrily shove those freedoms down the throats of men? Will we continually contribute to being objects? Or will we recognize we are equal while we are clearly different. That we all have our place and our position. That we all have much to bring to the plate of success as humans. That we were both designed by God to fulfill a complete plan.

Really, what will "we" choose to do?

PICTURES: Wikipedia. First Photo: Ms Stanton. Second Photo: Stanton(seated) and Anthony.

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Table Pilates For The Birthday Gal

2009-05-15T14:17:00.000-05:00

It's always healthy to do out of the ordinary things...as long as it's G rated. Well, at least when you post it on a public forum, like this!

This special occasion was inspired at my birthday retreat to an upscale hotel suite, which as you can see included a conference table. And since I didn't have any meetings, I had to think of a way to utilize the table. Sleeping on it was NOT an option. And I wasn't interested in eating on it. Working on it was NOT an option either as I left my mind behind.

But, ah, Pilates? Now that was an option! I know, I know, the surface was not the most conducive. Regardless, you can't keep a good Pilates instructor down. What shall we call it? Pilates on a Table. Conferencing Pilates. Pilates Conferencing. Table Pilates. Hmmmm. What do you think?

OK, OK, so some of you are asking, did I really do Pilates on that table? Maybe.....not! What was your first clue? The heels, you say? Heels never got in my way before.

Wonder Woman Pilates
Then came the idea to show my super power strength, being Wonder Woman, and all. Believe me, that light fixture was a lightning rod to my heart. Great for cardio. The balancing act was the next challenge. For sure, all the basic Pilates and alignment principles came in "handy". Looks like I was en route to the "mermaid".

Then came the greater challenge. My hub. I think he was enjoying the view, but more so getting a kick out of my nearly crashing to the floor. You should have been there to experience the moment with me. Maybe you could have encouraged my hub to quit pressing his luck with me. Then again, maybe not!

Until I grow another year older!!!!

Ripping Crowns???? Who's to Have That Privilege?

2009-05-12T19:59:00.005-05:00

We all have our opinions, do we not? Are we to lie about them given the circumstance?

Miss California, Carrie Prejean, was asked her opinion about an emotionally charged political topic at the Miss USA contest. She gave it, and because she didn't lie and or skirt the question, she has been put on the hot seat. Regardless, of your position on what you feel defines "marriage", you have to wonder why this question was a part of the contest. After all, this wasn't a political position these gals were competing for.

What was more disturbing to me was Perez Hilton's reaction that flashed all over You Tube shortly after the contest was over. His comments were highly emotional. Highly offensive to many. Not only did he say she was "dumb" but repeatedly called her a "dumb b****".

He talked about how he would have ripped the crown off of her head had she won. And how happy he was that she didn't get the crown. Hmmmmm. He spoke on what she "should" have said. So to be Miss USA, you have to answer these questions, not so they reflect who you are, but what everyone else thinks you should be or think? I don't get it. If that is the case, then why are these girls not drilled on political views and booted out BEFORE they compete?

I'm not one to promote beauty contests. But I'm certainly not one to promote stupidity by judges trying to present their cause at a BEAUTY contest.

Yes, I said beauty contest. Let's get real here. If this is as he suggests, a person who is to represent who we are as a nation or a state, then why is beauty at the helm? Really, how many of us are that drop dead gorgeous? One percent? Seriously. My suggestion is to get rid of the focus on the outward if you want to rep the majority of Americans. Put a real person with real flaws in the role of Miss USA. That will NEVER happen, folks.

And if they have to say what everyone wants to hear and not what they truly believe, then it just adds to the empty, fake persona these types of contests exude. Fake tans, fake breasts, fake smiles, fake how many other things.

Casting Stones
Then comes the attack on something Carrie did when she was 17. She admits it was not the best choice and that she would never do it again. OK, so how many of us can cast the first stone? Certainly not me. But most of us didn't put our immature choices in stone...in black and white...hard copies. She did. So forever she will have to live with that the choice she made. I think that's enough punishment. Don't you?

Am I condoning what she did? Certainly not. But I'm not ready to shoot her and string her up for the vultures to come and eat her.

Thank God we are not disowned by Him on what we did in the past, if we have settled that with Him.

I do wonder why and how come Carrie is the one bearing all the scrutiny, when Perez walks away without a blink? Again, my question is why was it OK for him to scream obscenities about Carrie just minutes after the contest? And to go on and on about how dumb she was...how she was supposed to have answered his question in the way "he" thinks she should have. And that he would have physically ripped the crown from her head had she won. Little bit of anger going there!

Amazing. And the Miss USA pageant officials didn't have any issue with that, yet, they are griping about Carrie? Double standards. And I don't go for such no matter how wrong a matter might be. If that makes sense.

I've listened to Carrie being interviewed and have yet heard her be anything but kind and gracious, even in her pain. Perez, on the other hand, comes across as a hater for sure. And he's complaining about her? WoW! I'm not getting it, Perez. It almost sounds like "you" would like to do more than rip her crown off. What threat is she to you for you to become so quickly volatile?

Like Carrie, I have gay friends, and none of them have taken the position Perez has. All of them have clearly stated they would have been more offended had she played the dumb blond and or flat out lied to attain the prize before her. Too, they believe Perez has hindered their cause by his unruly actions.

Crown On Or Crown Off?
As many of you know, The Donald (Trump), gave the final word today. He refused to dethrone Carrie. He gave her his support. Good for you, Donald!

Too, I thought it was interesting that Donald reminded everyone that even the president stated that he believes marriage is between a man and a woman. Hmmmmmm.

I leave you with two videos. You decide. Please turn off my playlist at the VERY bottom of the page before viewing these videos. WARNING: 1st video has "language".

Never Forgetting the Unforgettable

2009-05-02T13:07:00.008-05:00

While chilling a today, after a week of pleasant but comsuming events, I was strolling through Dermot Mulroney videos.

There was one that caught my attention for many reasons: One, I enjoy his acting, and two I've seen
The Memory Keepers Daughter
advertised on TV often over the last year. While my curiosity was heightened, I never worked out time to watch it.

Now, all I'm thinking is, when is it going to be on the air again or better yet, since I'm a collector of films, where can I get a copy the quickest? Amazon, here I come!

As I sauntered from one scene to the next, one video to the next, emotions were unpacking as fast as the deeper meanings flooded and spewed from what seemed like the deepest part of my soul. Tears flowed. And I haven't even seen the movie. Goodness. Go figure.

Maybe it goes back to my own cousin, Billy, who had Downs during a time when our world was not as intelligent as Billy. Yes, Billy, who brought more love to a moment than many could bring to a lifetime. I was never provided much opportunity to spend time with him since we lived in two different parts of the country, but I never forgot him. I often wondered how he was doing. According to my Uncle Joe, he grew up to live independently from his folks, and lived many years beyond his peers.

Then my mind goes to friends who have walked this same path with their children. I can't claim to know what they feel, what they dream, what they question, what they wonder. But for whatever reason, my heart has hope for these gifted and God spirited young people who are different from us, yet not so vastly separated from who we are as humans.

Different in that they are full of unusual love and compassion. Not so different in that they have to live this life, as we, trying to figure out every day events that pass through our lives.

Are they our angels, as Dale Evans and Roy Rogers suggested in their book about their own little sweetheart? I think so, in some way.

Indeed they are God's messengers to us. Yes, we, who think we know it all, think we are brighter and smarter. When really, we are the ones who are needy, who are lacking, who are unlearned, who are impure, who are unable to see through the pureness of God's Eyes.

I don't know the ending of this movie, nor do I know all of its context, but I do believe it offers us hope as parents, and as a community, who should be about seeing life more clearly through the innocence of these precious children who bring God's purpose and mission. To teach..."us".

CLICK HERE TO VIEW NINE SCENES FROM THE MOVIE. I think you'll be glad you did!

I've heard that a majority of people loved the movie even better than the film.You can purchase the book: click here.

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What to NOT Wear!

2009-04-29T15:14:00.003-05:00

Fun fashion and a friend to boot!!!! The young man on this first video is a friend of my son's from high school. His dad is a well known football player! Such a neat guy, he and his dad!!!!!

You may want to turn off my Playlist at the bottom of the page. Upper left hand icon.

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How to Dance the Night Away Without Any Accidents!

2009-04-24T17:41:00.001-05:00

Let's dance the night away!!! Without any "accidents"! We may get giggle at this and or we may balk at it, but "they" are quickly becoming "us".

Accidents? And I don't mean pregnancy.

Accidents As In Loss of Control!

Currently, incontinence leaks its way into the lives of over 19 million Americans. It is predicted that 27 million will be probably suffer with the condition by the year 2010.

There are three main types which rep about 90% of all cases:

Stress
Urge
Mixed.

Other Types Include:

Overflow
Neurogenic
Post-Prostatectomy

OK, so we don't like to think about this being "us"? Perhaps, but reality is, Baby Boomers are going to meet face-to-face with faulty-faucets. It is inevitable. BB's are becoming the growing population, ousting teenagers. Geriatrics are not going away, no matter how many surgeries we have. We were all born to die. In the meantime, how can we live our lives more productively?

Some Interesting Stats on Incontinence

Women take the lead: 85%
50% of the elderly in nursing homes are incontinent(U.S. Agency for Health Care Policy and Research)
1996 reports say that $1.5 billion was spent on adult diapers
25 to 50% with this condition find that incontinence decreases social activity and quality of life, according to the University of Georgia College of Pharmacy
The number one cause of incontinence in men is having had prostate cancer surgery
Over 65 % say they suffered with incontinence six months or longer after surgery (this is radical surgery) click her for more info
Only 1 in 12 seek medical advice and help
80% of those who seek medical treatment, are cured and or helped
7% of people all over the world suffer with incontinence

What's The Newest "Tool" On The Market?

There are number of options to try and "fix" incontinence: pharmaceuticals, surgery, and biofeedback. All of which, do not provide perfect results. Each has its own problems whether it be terrible side-effects, post surgery issues with failed results, expensive, and finding the right professional that can help as in biofeedback.

So What To Do????

Individually, we have to explore what works best for our situation. While I'm not there yet, I do have this issue with a family member whom I care for. She's elderly and has some health issues, so the option for surgery is out of the picture. It's just not worth it. And in her case, drugs are not the answer. Biofeedback might not be such a bad idea, if she could truly get the concepts and a professional that knows how to work well with the elderly.

Don't Wait!!!!!

My suggestion is to start early in your life. If you are older, still it's never to late to begin. While we may not be able to orchestrate our outcome, due to say a stroke, like my family member had which set off the problem, we can begin to learn to better care for our bodies.

Pilates???? Huh????

YES, Pilates is huge in creating a platform for body control, as you know. But did you know that core training really is about strengthening your muscles. Your pelvic muscles. Which in turn helps prevent incontinence at some level, if not all together.

The key is learning "how" to engage the right muscles. Think of the Kegel exercise. That should help you better understand what we need to be working on daily if we want to prevent problems in the future. However, many people do NOT perform Kegels properly. So my advice is to please seek help in learning to do these properly or it may be counterproductive.

I've listed two sites above that you may want to check out on kegel exercises. It will be worth your time.

But the best plan is to seek a qualified person to help and or answer any questions about the exercise. That would include doctors, biofeedback practitioners, and, yes, most definitely a professionally trained Pilates trainer. And again, professional as in more than a few week ends of training. Remember most Pilates professionals are NOT found in your local rec center.

Once you learn, yes, it will be work, and for the REST of your life. But it will be soooo worth it!!!! I promise!

If You Or Your Loved One Needs Practical Help Right Now?

While protective underwear are not the most exciting option and are not the most "green" option, they do provide a means for a better lifestyle.

Did You Know?

Depend now comes in two "shapes". Why? To offer "support" for not just women, but men. Forever, women have had better options in protective-wear due to the high percentages of incontinence. But now the 21st century is here, and with it we are seeing increased awareness for men as well.

Yes, men used regular Depend prior to this new edition. However, I'm certain they are thankful that someone at Kimberly-Clark could be depended on to take care of their individual needs. KC announced plans to roll out the product line late last year.

Seeing the need for not just the elderly of today, K-C is looking ahead. And they are appealing to the Baby Boomer market. Why not?

And the gender based adult "protectwear" are color-coded! You guessed it: Pink for the ladies, and Blue for the men! I love it!!!

Already, I'm hearing great reports from men! They love the new and improved Depend made just for them! Not that they are going to chit-chat with you about it. They'll let the women folks take care of that.

But do look for the upcoming commercials. You will either hate them or love them. As for me and my house, we are going to embrace them. I'm just so thankful that there is something new and improved to help those who suffer with this condition. Perhaps the percentages of people suffering socially might begin to decrease. I hope so.

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Trying To Clean Up My Act

2009-04-22T13:41:00.006-05:00

This is "Green Day". Green and Clean!!!! Try taking just today to be totally organic. Easier said than done. You will realize just how spoiled we are if you take this challenge.

I had considered riding my bike instead of driving to the store. But then, duh, how was I going to get my 20 bags of ORGANIC mulch on the bike???? Picture that for a brief moment. No workie.

Moving right along, I figured I could use all my organic house and personal cleaning ingredients. But then, I do that all the time.

I have a washing machine and dishwasher that use less water. And I've been drying some clothes outside. No, not all. Somehow, I don't think my hub will go for stiff underwear and socks.

I have the windows open, so I'm not using my central air. And, yes, it's 90 degrees here in Texas today. ugh. NO, I could not do this, of my own free will, all summer long. Any alternative? Yes, move north.

And I am wearing all cotton today. I love cotton. It breathes, and I need all the air I can get these days.

I've been working in the "dirt" all week, so that should count for something, don't you think? I hope so. I do love yard work.

I have four acres to mow, and I hate to report that I probably won't be using a push mower. It's ZTR time. I guess I could hire a few goats. And we do have "bonus" horses that visit now and again that help keep the horse coral mowed. But for now, it's going to have to be less green.

Another way I'm celebrating green is by sharing it with others. Yes, this blog, but also by giving green to others, literally.

For example, I gave a close friend dryer-balls you've heard me talk about in a previous post. While they may not deteriorate for a bazillion years, they work wonders in the dryer without all the chemicals in dryer sheets. Too, my friend is reporting that she is loving them, and that she's finding her drying time is much quicker. And no static!

So, while they are not completely a green item, they come pretty close. And they last forever...in the dryer.

Last but NOT least: PILATES! Very organically GREEN and burns calories! Today, I will do sets of 10 starting with the Hundred, Rocking Chair, Roll-Over, Roll-Up, Swan Dive, Star, etc. Not necessarily in that order. Fun times!

I really am trying to "clean" up my life, folks, but a gal can only do so much.

Let me know some of the ways you are going green this month.

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Dr. Phil's Show On Sexting

2009-04-20T17:05:00.004-05:00

Watching Dr. Phil last Thursday was truly an emotional event. Still when I think about it, I tear up. If you didn't see it, at least go to his site and read about it. See the previous post (below) for those details.

Also, note on his site the metal illness awareness . More and more, I am reminded of how we need clear our heads as we move into the 21st century with a more intelligent view on mental diseases. We may not burn people with mental struggles at the stake anymore, but yet we burn them with our faulty attitudes and damaging words. Think about it!

Sounds like a subject for another day! Until then...

Stay healthy!

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Dr. Phil and Sexting

2009-04-16T13:12:00.000-05:00

As if TEXTING wasn't enough for us to worry about, now there is

SEX-TING!!!!

Just as a reminder, Dr. Phil will be speaking about "sexting" today on his program. Check your local listings as to when it airs. It will air on Channel 11 today at 3 CST on my Direct Network here in Dallas. I think it will be helpful. Record it, if you are not going to be home to watch it!

Yesterday I thought I had recorded a program about teenagers and Internet issues. But what did I do? I accidentally clicked it for the show on Thursday. ugh! Too much tech stuff for this gal!

Anyway, do watch Dr. Phil today. Hope to see you there.

By the way, thanks, Angela, for alerting me to these upcoming programs!!!!

Teens Sexting Their Way to Jail

2009-04-13T11:04:00.010-05:00

I'm taking a break from our series' on domestic/dating violence, eating disorders, and autism to look behind the scenes of an alarming "sex" alert among our youth. Or maybe I should say "text" alert.

What Am I Talking About?

Headlines hit the news, once again today, concerning the dangers of "sexting" among our youth. (Dallas Morn News) The repercussions are becoming more sobering as the numbers continue to grow right along side of these concerns. While we saunter along in oblivion. And our children play with their lives as well as the lives of others with seemingly little thought.

Gone are the days of our children simply just chatting on land-lines with their friends. But so are the days of conversing on their cell phones. As you may know, texting has taken the lead in communication among our children.

Impersonal? For sure. I know of situations where young people have chosen to take the "easy" way out of a difficult relational situation. Instead of having to share a serious matter voice-to-voice (forget antiquated face-to-face), texting has become enticing to ease their given challenge.

While impersonal texting contributes to our social deficit in the 21st century, add to that texting with a sexual flair. "Sexting". What is that? Most of these messages are not sexually explicit texts but visuals. Nude visuals.

Are you surprised? Most of you are probably not. After all, people have been sharing nude pix for years. There is no new thing under the sun. I can remember my teenage peers using Polaroid shoot and print. But sexting is in a category all to itself. It brings with it vast consequences unlike anything we could have fathomed in the good old days.

There can be no denying sexting these pornographic pix bring sobering results. For one, they can be shared in duplicity. To the masses. And as in the case of one young girl in Ohio who committed suicide when her boyfriend forwarded her nude pix to hundreds of their peers without her approval or knowledge until it was too late.

I'm speaking of Cynthia Logan's daughter, Jessica aka Jessie Logan.

"Jessica Logan, 18, hung herself July 3, 2008, after a her nude cell phone photo - meant for her boyfriend’s eyes only - was sent to hundreds of teenagers in at least seven Greater Cincinnati high schools and Jessica was bombarded with taunts." Jennifer Baker (March 26, 2009) Cincinnati.com

Jessie tried to overcome the one mistake she made. A single nude shot of herself meant for one person's eyes only, not having a clue that after they broke up, he would forward it to hundreds of people. The harassment began. And it never stopped until she ended it... with a noose around her neck right in her own bedroom, in her closet, with her cell phone on the floor.

No one dreamed Jessie would take such drastic measures to escape the pain. She did seek help. She even went public with it to help others (see video). She didn't just lay down and give up. She truly tried to turn it around. But to no avail. I sit here trying to think of words to describe this precious loss to so many. There really aren't any that can even come close. All I can do is cry the tears of a mother.

Thankfully, her mom, Cynthia Logan, is currently pursuing a national campaign to affect laws that will ensure better protection of our teens.

Kudos to her!!!! We need to support her and such efforts in our own communities.

But Really, What Can We Do?

We can first begin by making ourselves aware that there truly IS a critical issue among our teens and sexting.

From there, we MUST bring prevention to our schools, churches, and for sure our own homes.

We must become technically literate or we will lose our opportunity to spare more young people like Jessie.

If you think that would never happen to your child, you are foolish. That might sound harsh, but I say it with the most respect. Too, I say it with grave concern because bad things can and DO happen to innocent good people.

Get into the heart of the matter: Your child's life. Be proactive. Be smart. Set boundaries with your child's cell phone. Know what kinds of texts they are sending and receiving. LOOK. If you are paying for the bill, and they live in your home, you have absolutely every right. This isn't about "trusting" your child. Goodness, folks! It is about not trusting human nature. We ALL have it. And children especially need protection. They need boundaries with balance. Notice, I didn't say watch them like a hawk and or stalk them! I said be sincerely active in their world.

For Those Who Believe "GOOD" kids Are NOT Susceptible

Teens, no matter who they are, can get caught up in the "moment" and don't' consider the end results. That is a fact. Many do not start out doing or wanting to do something wrong. Many times they just want to be accepted. And other times, they just "act", they don't "think" at all.

Let's Look at Some Facts About Their Growing Minds!

Research shows that adolescent brain development is clearly under construction and may not be "complete" until their 20s.

"There is growing scientific evidence that the brain continues
to develop throughout adolescence. Reasoning and judgment
begin developing in the teen years, but the process continues
into the early and mid-20s." Resource click here.

"Parts of a person's brain continue to mature through a person's early twenties. The prefrontal cortex, the brain's control center for thinking ahead and sizing up risks and rewards, matures well past the teen years. Meanwhile, the brain's limbic system, which controls emotions, matures earlier. When teens make choices in emotionally charged situations, those choices often have more to do with feelings (the mature limbic system) than with logic (the not-yet-mature prefrontal cortex)." Junior Scholastic (10/13/08)

This is not to say teens can't make good decisions, but that we need to understand more clearly what is indeed going on in those minds of theirs, and what is "not" going on. And that rebellion is not always at the helm.

Let's face it, teens are confronted with critical issues every day among their peers. The pressure is on, which ignites stress, which may be a perfect landing for disaster.

Is Sexting Really A Concern?

Many think sexting is becoming epidemic. It's the latest trendy way to share yourself. Quite literally. Unfortunately. "It's a way of expressing yourself", I've heard some teens boldly admit. Too, many of these kids are doing it for a joke. Unfortunately, the joke may turn on them.

Roughly 20 percent of teens admit to participating in "sexting," according to a nationwide survey (pdf) by the National Campaign to Support Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy. CBS News (01/19/09)
"According to one survey, one in five teenagers have sent nude or semi-nude pictures of themselves either online or by cell phone. According to one survey, one in five teenagers have sent nude or semi-nude pictures of themselves either online or by cell phone." Channel 3 News Las Vegas(3/30/09)
In fact, a recent study commissioned by the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy and CosmoGirl.com finds one out of five teens has done it!
The study also shows that teen girls are not the only ones sharing sexually explicit content.
Almost one in five teen boys said they have sent or posted nude/semi nude images of themselves.
33 % of teens say they have sent sexting messages.
48% of teens say they have received sexting messages.
44% of boys say they have received nude sexting messages of girls.
15% of these same boys say they disseminate the pix out for others to view once their relationship ends with the girl.
One-third of young adults -- 36% of women and 31% of men ages 20-26—say they have sent or posted such images.

What Teens Don't Know Can Haunt Them a Lifetime

Most teens and even parents do not know is that sexting is a criminal act. More specifically, carries a charge of distributing child pornography. This is a charge that does not just go away. It may remain on that young person's record as a sex-offender. And in some cases this may include not just the person sending the message but the person receiving. Already there have been situations where nude photos were found on phones of elementary children, and they were charged with sex-offence.

For sure, we must make it clear to our teens that they can be prosecuted. This is a crime not to be laughed at or ignored. Just in these last few months, since the first of the year, there have been at least six states that have been investigating more than 24 teens involved in sexting. I can promise you these numbers are only going to increase exponentially.

Laws are in the making. Parents and leaders need to be in the breaking. The breaking of this damaging social dilemma our teens are in. They need us. Don't fool yourself, just because the media portrays us as idiots on TV, etc. We are in their lives to love them. Love them to make wise choices. But first WE need to make wise choices. The question is, are we?

Remember to scroll down to the bottom of the page and turn off my playlist. If this video doesn't rip your heart out, nothing will.

Let this cause you to "do" something about making life better for our young adults!

The following is supposed to be a video shown at Jesse's memorial service.

Other Sources: Tips on how to keep your teens Net safe, click here.

Click here for other articles.

And here for more detail on Jessie's story.

PHOTO: Jessie Logan found on the Net.

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Easter Greetings!

2009-04-12T18:52:00.003-05:00

Blessings on this Easter 2009!!!! Taking time to reflect God's Goodness in our lives.

Do Officers of the Law Have the Right to Complain About Domestic Violence Calls?

2009-04-09T16:32:00.006-05:00

In the previous article, Marion brought up some good questions about why abused women do what they do. And we talked about our attitudes. Hopefully, we discovered we don't help abused women by our critical, and for sure uneducated remarks.

Having been in this field of work for years, I've heard it all. That is, heard the driving questions that pins these women up against a wall. Slam dunk. Adding insult to insult. Not considering that they already get that kind of treatment from their abuser. No wonder so many abused women isolate, which only adds to their demise.

But it's not just the average person that critiques these women. Law enforcement complain that they put their lives in jeopardy attending to the domestic violence calls. That's just part of their concern. Frequently officers find the abused woman either not willing to prosecute, in cases where it's not mandatory for the DA to prosecute. And or she ends up hindering them from handling the danger at hand. Then to add fuel, many times she either gets angry at the officers and or in some cases begins to turn on them instead of their abuser.

The truth is, reports say that statistically domestic violence calls are the most dangerous for officers. They are faced with not just injuries, but with the possibility of dying. So it's easy to see why these authorities are not eager about making these calls. And why they are often frustrated with the abused woman.

There is some debate on whether these calls are as hazardous to police as once was reported by the FBI (1970s-1980s). Truth is, the report the FBI came out with was not completely clear. Later, it was discovered that the numbers of deaths reported were not all on domestic calls.

According to the book, Battleground: Criminal Justice, the FBI report showed three times the actual amount of officers killed on domestic calls. What wasn't clear in the report was that included in those numbers were actually officers killed in gang activities, bar fights, and restraining deranged people. These were in "one" disturbance category. All said and done, there were 62 officers out of 1,085 who were actually killed on domestic calls between the years 1973-1982.

More recently, Pittsburgh Tribune-Review reported that 50 police officers across the country were killed after responding to domestic disturbances from 1998 through 2007, according to the most recent data available from the FBI. By comparison, 27 officers died in drug-related incidents.

Regardless, officers of the law do have reason for concern. However, to berate the abused women is not the answer.

Next time we will address what are the answers to helping these women in crisis. Too, we will take a closer look at what drives them to make the decisions that they do?

What's Appealing About Being Abused?

2009-04-07T23:22:00.006-05:00

Continuing on with our series on domestic/dating violence...

Hi Ellen, I have not been on the computer much here lately. I read your abuse story (3/20). As I read, I thought why do women allow things like this to happen? I think we feel hopeless and think there is no way out of this, also as you mentioned, we all think it will get better: "he" will stop this and everything will be OK. We just keep hoping, until we meet our limit and know this is all wrong. Some of us can do it ourselves, but there are some who need to seek help, so they do manage to find a way out. Thanks for letting us into your heart. ~Marion~

Marion asks penetrating questions about who we are as women.

What do you think? About Abused Women?
Are they just weak? Are they just stupid? Are they just hopelessly in love? Are they always willing to put ourselves last? What do they not get about leaving bad relationships?

Some women think, number one, they would NEVER get themselves in these types of relationships to begin with, and if they ever did, they would be out in a flash.

The hard reality is ANYONE can find themselves in an abusive relationship. No one, I repeat, NO ONE is exempt, no matter how much you try and convince yourself. Remember, abuse does not typically rear its ugly head until deeper into the relationship. And get out so quickly? Stats show otherwise. Take heed lest ye fall yourself. Rather educate yourself, and it might change your whole perspective and your attitude.

Yes, there are some people who will acclimate toward abusive men, without even realizing it. Some people grow up in abuse, so there is a "comfort" level, if you will, with the dysfunction. Yet, there are many who have not suffered abuse in their childhood, and find themselves "involuntarily" in bad situations.

But the questions rage on about women and why they do what they do? The unfortunate part is, the questions sometimes turn angry and often become hurtful and accusatory. Believe me, uninformed judgments only keep the abused down.

Yes, I do understand the quandary from those who have not walked in the shoes of these women. For it seems, "these" women are just not willing to do something to make their lives better. That they are willing to just take whatever their perpetrator dishes out. Right? Uh-huh. I've heard it all.

So tomorrow we will take a closer look behind their eyes to better understand what drives these women to even dare to consider staying in these broken down destructive relationships. You might be surprised at what you discover.

Revisiting Autism and Pilates

2009-04-06T19:27:00.001-05:00

Autism continues to hit the news (see article below). The Sunday Parade just recently had a warming article on the many facets of autism. Today, the local news reported a missing teenager. The greater emphasis? He had autism. The good news? He was found.

My heart's concerns have broadened due to having clients whose children have autism. While I have not trained any of the children in Pilates, I have been a nutritional consultant for them. Before we get into physical and nutritional suggestions, let's take a look at the face of autism.

Considering 30+ years ago autism stats were 1 in 10,000 children, the 21st century stats are alarming. According to the Center for Disease Control 1 in 166 children are living with some form of autism's daily demands. Too, we know that boys are more likely to be its choice. Why? is the clarion call. Is it genetics? Is it the mercury in vaccines? Is it in the food they eat? So many unanswered questions.

Thankfully, we have evolved into a greater sensitivity from the past. Years ago (early 1900s) Eugen Bleuler coined the name autism and claimed it was schizophrenia. In the 1940s others(Bruno Bettelheim, Leo Kanner)blamed it on what was called, "The Refrigerator Mother". Mothers of autistic children were accused of not providing sufficient amounts of interaction with their child, therefore causing the autism. In 1964 Bernard Rimland wrote Infantile Autism shedding new light and redeeming these misaligned mothers. Then came Rain Man with Tom Cruise and Dustin Hoffman giving autism the long awaited audience it deserved.

Over 30 years ago was my first encounter with autism. My fiance, at the time, was researching the subject for his degree in psychology. It definitely caught my attention. Little did we know just how profound it would hit our society and people we would come to know and love.

Pilates and Autism?
Yes, the two can work well together. While I have not had the privilege of working with a client with autism, I know that Pilates can provide a healthy piece to the puzzle.

Dawn-Marie Ickes is an example. She is a PT as well as a certified Pilates instructor and has reported positive results while working with children with autism. She found that Pilates helped with both movement transitions and environment transitions which are the two biggest challenges autistic children face. She found a way to incorporate activities to keep them organized before working on their gait-related issues and motor skills. She focused on their vestibular and proprioceptive systems as a prep activity which helped the therapeutic intervention.

She incorporated the Pilates Reformer and the jump board as well in their therapy. The Reformer helped them to focus and transition from exercise to exercise as well as giving them a sense of better balance and awareness. The jump board helped to provide a linear combination of vestibular and proprioceptive input. To read more about her findings, please check out: Pilates ' Surprising Benefits, November 2006.

Please note that it is NOT recommended that an autistic child be placed under the care of just any Pilates instructor but a highly qualified professional who understands not just Pilates but autism rehabilitation.

Nutrition Therapy?

That will have to be the topic of another post. I will say nutrition, I believe, is a critical part of the solution. Which vitamins, supplements, foods, etc. to use? While I believe there are definitely certain ones that prove to be helpful, as in any case, each child is an individual with unique nutritional needs.

Let's pray for a cure. In the meantime, I hope we all find a way to be a part of the solution. Some suggestions:

Be an encouragement to those whose children have autism
Contributing financially to the cause
Learning more about it and sharing what we know

The following is an article worth noting:
Health Highlights: April 24, 2008 - MSN Health & Fitness - Health Topics:
"Proximity to Mercury Pollution Source Linked to Autism Risk The first study to show a statistical relationship between autism and proximity to industrial sites that release mercury has been published by researchers at the University of Texas Health Science Center at San Antonio. Their analysis of data from 1,040 Texas school districts and data from 39 coal-fired power plants and 56 industrial facilities in the state showed that autism rates decreased by one percent to two percent for each 10 miles of distance from a mercury pollution source.

Among the other findings: For every 1,000 pounds of mercury released by all industrial sources in Texas in 1998, there was a corresponding 2.6 percent increase in autism rates in Texas school districts in 2002. For every 1,000 pounds of mercury released by Texas power plants in 1998, there was a corresponding 3.7 percent increase in autism rates in Texas school districts in 2002.

The research appears in the journal Health & Place. 'This study was not designed to understand which individuals in the population are at risk due to mercury exposure. However, it does suggest generally that there is greater autism risk closer to the polluting source, lead author Raymond Palmer, associate professor of family and community medicine, said in a prepared statement. -----"

Does My Child Have Autism????

2009-04-03T09:33:00.006-05:00

Repeatedly, I am confronted with, "Does my child have autism?" Just the other week a casual acquaintance whom I see once a month or so had that very concern with his young son. My heart broke for him. But as he described the dynamics, I felt certain his little boy's world is that of autism.

So often parents do not know or do not want to know if their child has autism. Many times denial steals the information. For sure, it is a dreaded revelation. No wonder it frightens parents from facing the possible inevitable until their child is much older.

But the sooner the diagnosis, the better chance the child and parent have in unpacking the damage so as to begin to restore lost time. Lost time that has cheated them out of a better life.

So what is the danger of a parent's denial? It snatches not just understanding the illness but accelerates the emotional confusion of what is happening to their child.

Stats Tell Us:

That only 50 percent of children are diagnosed with autism before kindergarten. We know that children can be diagnosed by three and often by the age of 18 months old. And in some cases it appears it may be diagnosed as early as twelve months and younger.

Autism invades the lives of more children than does cancer.

Males are four times more likely to have it than females.

Girls with autism tend to have more severe symptoms and greater cognitive impairment.

Autism is labeled under PDD, Pervasive Developmental Disorder. Pervasive Developmental Disorders (PDD), is a category of neurological disorders characterized by “severe and pervasive impairment in several areas of development.” Autism Society of America

Autism spectrum disorders refers to a group of disorders characterized by delays in the development of socialization and communication skills.

Other Autism Spectrum Disorders Include:

Childhood disintegrative disorder
Classic autism
Asperger
Rett syndrome

Pervasive developmental disorder not otherwise specified (usually referred to as PDD-NOS).

Classic autism (Dr. Leo Kanner discovered in the 1940s) is labeled as more severe than Aspergers (named after Dr. Hans Asperger, who discovered it in the 1940s). While these two are more common, neither are as severe as Rett and Childhood disintegrative disorder.

What Are The Most Obvious Signs?

Demonstrate deficits in social interaction. You feel as though they are not "connecting" with you, a disconnect of emotions.

Have difficulty with verbal and nonverbal communication. Some do not speak at all and may never. While others, as with Asperger, retain early language and do speak.
Display repetitive behaviors or narrow, obsessive interests. Example would be of a child repeatedly banging his head against an object, like a wall or table. Not all behaviors are as hurtful as that, of course.
Attention to certain and or unusual details. One case study I read told of a little boy with Autism who didn't respond to any noise no matter the volume. But then with the simple sound of a window carefully shutting, his complete attention was quickly absorbed in that one unassuming detail.

If you have questions about the development of your young child, please DO NOT wait to seek help. The sooner you release your fear and seek information, the more apt your child will be able to live a greater fulfilled life.

Resources: For a detailed study on Genetic Studies of Autism: From the 1970s into the Millennium, click here:
Journal of Abnormal Child Psychology , Feb, 2000 by Michael Rutter;
Autism Society of America.

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Characteristics of Autism?

2009-04-02T13:26:00.003-05:00

Our National Day for Autism!

2009-04-02T01:30:00.006-05:00

April 2 is National Autism Day. So in honor of that, I want to include a few items of interest this month for those who desire to learn more about this invasive and rapid growing disorder among our children.

There is an ongoing search as to the cause of autism. And no wonder, considering the increase in numbers since back in the 60s-70s. At that time there was an estimated 1 to 4.5 people in 10,000 known to have autism. Of course, that stat was based on what was reported and what was understood about autism at that time.

However, "Victor Lotter, the psychologist whose path-breaking research in the 1960s established the prevalence of classic autism at 4.5 children in every 10,000 in the population, was always a wise mentor." http://www.uoguelph.ca/oaar/WCC-OSAC.html

Compare that to now in the 21st century; some stats show as many as 1 in 122. However, that does include the various "kinds" of autism. According to the Center of Disease Control Prevention (1997), 1 in 150 births are affected by autism.

Too, we know that boys take the lead in being invaded by autism. According to the U.S. Dept of Ed., autism is growing at the rate of 10-17 percent per year.

Many considerations have been pondered in the scientific world as well as the grass roots. Perhaps you've heard them all. Everything from the mercury in vaccines, to certain food groups, television, cell phones, toxins in rain, prenatal depression on the part of moms, the age of the father, pesticides, contrails, ultrasounds, and certain dyes? The mystery rages on. Unfortunately.

And just recently, vinyl floors have come under scrutiny for being a factor in causing autism.

According to an article in Environmental Health News, entitled Scientists Find 'Baffling' Link between Autism and Vinyl Flooring:
Children who live in homes with vinyl floors, which can emit chemicals called phthalates, are more likely to have autism, according to research by Swedish and U.S. scientists published Monday.

This is a small study and cannot be used as a conclusive link to autism.

So where do we go with all this? We press on searching, leaving no stone unturned. And just maybe we will unlock the darkness this challenge has on our precious children.

No Foolin' !

2009-04-01T16:35:00.006-05:00

I am no longer interested in Pilates, so this will be the last of the articles on this blogsite.

OK, OK, so you know I'm joshing you! This is the day for such foolishness!

April Fools!

Hope you didn't get tricked too much today. But that you were able to lighten up and laugh a little. We know that laughter is med to the soul!!!

Love ya! I'm off to update for the month!!! Keep up the good work!

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With A Broken Wing...

2009-03-25T18:58:00.005-05:00

The following song has been "mine" since it came out in 1997. I invite you to go to the website below and sit back and consider the beauty of the human soul never, never, never giving up.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5RTX6DxJ5G8

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Up Close And Personal From YOU!

2009-03-24T12:51:00.004-05:00

Thank you, Tammy, for being willing to share this with our audience. For sure, your story takes us from hard cold statistics to the stirring realities of dating and domestic violence.

EM....
Thank you for sharing your story; it was very moving. I know your story is the same one that's unfortunately played out every day all around the world. I have my own experience of it; I was once married to an abusive alcoholic. My friends and family didn't approve of him from the start, but I just knew I would change him... yeah right; you & I both know how well that works. He abused me more mentally than physically, although there were definitely times of pushing and shoving. Fortunately, usually by the time it got to that point he was so drunk he could barely stand up, and I was able to defend myself pretty easily.

Anyway, I found my beautiful, sweet friend Dana, who eventually became my husband. He helped me to see that I was worth so much more, and he helped me gain the courage to leave the abuser. We've been together 12 years, and my life is so good now that I can barely remember the bad times with my ex-husband, but I know they happened. And I like to think that they shaped me to be the woman I am today.

Again, thanks for sharing your story.... I'm sure it'll touch the hearts of many. ~Tammy~ 3/22/09

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Black And Blue and Always True

2009-03-20T20:08:00.005-05:00

Her life was not so different from any other little girl growing up. Or was it? Maybe. Her home was safe from the chaos of the world. Though violence whirled around the era of the late 60s and 70s, her home was nestled in the warmth and sureties of her family.

Then without warning, her daddy was snatched from her life. His last breath was shared in the silence of a cold dark hospital room. Her world changed forever. Still she had the love and care of her family.

Yet, changes were inevitable. Her mother had to go outside the home to work, her siblings left for college. She became a latch-key kid before the term was ever coined. Many transitions seized their lives from that one event in time. Nothing or anyone, but God, could have stopped it.

She grew into a young lady. Confusion along side of her. As to who she was or was not. The intimacy and protection she had once known in the safety of her home dismantled piece by piece. Leaving mere fragments of her soul.

Then came the attention of one particular young man. Gentle in nature. But determined to draw her into his world of hope. He was patient. And his patience paid off. In time, she gave in to his constant and pure affections. Or so they seemed. And perhaps were.

She had loved others. And more so. What then was this? This seductive pull?

She relinquished her affections. She acquiesced. Unrequited love no longer. Without even knowing why. Not much thought was given. Just her life.

All was calm... Before the storm.

What caused the tempest? No one knew. But there was no denying it, as it raged in and out of their lives.

It took them both by surprise. Neither were equipped to unravel its mysteries, or quiet its assault, much less stop the horror it was invading upon their innocence.

You see, his love vanished. Replaced with Violence. Abuse. Control...loss of control. Jealousy. Obsession. Where had they all been so neatly tucked away? Who would have thought? But there was no denying it now.

She was left with despair. There was no where to turn. She didn't even know that she was supposed to turn. Turn to what?

Should she have known? For sure, had she, she would have welcomed it gladly. Instead she was lost. Lost in what was real and what wasn't.

For as sure as she would unveil its ugliness, his suffocation would only grow stronger around her heart. She couldn't breathe. She died daily. Then one day she just didn't exist anymore. She just was.

Yet, somewhere buried in the crevices of her dashed dreams, hope thrived.

You see, he took. But she gave. Like an open pit, he took more til there was no more. Never being satisfied. Never.

Threats were bigger than life. Overwhelmed by his cunning demands, she acquiesced. Only this time not her love, but her very life. Her mind.

Did she ever try to escape it's deadly hold? But, of course. Many times. Many. And just as many times his pleading to beg her forgiveness sank its ugly sweet fangs into her soul. So she forgave. And he changed. Yes, he changed. For the worst.

The cycle continued. The battle for their souls warred on. Who would win? Years past. But the violence didn't.

He was proud of his feat. Of his ability to play the drama out the way he chose and when. She mindlessly heeded. Yet, the glimmer in her eyes, the hope in her heart, and the belief in something bigger than herself never completely died.

He thought he had her all. He was convinced of that one thing. But then while he was consumed in his own self-destruction, she embraced something as mighty, if not more: That there was an escape. Yet, it seemed nowhere in sight. After all, she had guarded and hid herself from any possible help. Why? She was ashamed. Ashamed that anyone would know that she was not loved.

But WAIT! She remembered! She was loved!!! As she should be.

This revelation was not new. She had forgotten it, that's all. It had been covered up in the murk and mire of his lies and manipulations. Fear had enveloped her life. Her mind. Fear had immobilized her. But where there is no fear, there is no courage.

Then quietly, bravery emerged one dark but bright Sunday morning. She had not planned it. Not orchestrated it. That was the beauty of it. She just knew. Freedom was softly knocking on her heart's door when she least expected it.

But he was not. Free, that is. He was as deep in bondage as ever. While he was sure he had her, Truth was, he had finalized his own death. He had entangled himself in his own web of control. The weavings were strong around his neck. Choking him. Strangling him. Snuffing out his very life. While she was slowly but deeply breathing life in all about her.

His mental drama raged on, fighting for her return. Her return to its destruction. But the battle had been won and without so much as a lift of her finger.

She walked away that day, never, never, never to look back again. She walked out as casually as she had walked in. Yet, this time without a glimmer of confusion.

He continued the fight, with every ounce of evil he had in himself....to draw her back into his world of darkness. But there was no more battle. It had been won. He was in his own war now. And she was no longer in his prison.

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This story depicts my own. A story that ravaged my young life for over 10 precious years. The stats tell us that it usually takes a woman leaving at least six times before the relationship ends. Ends by her leaving for good, but all too often ends because her abuser kills her and in some cases she kills him. I did leave numerous times and returned to yet another promise. That, yes, was broken.

Thankfully, I had great support from my family and that was probably why I survived as well as I did. There were no domestic violent centers then, at least not near me. Little education was available. I was usually told by the police to just go home and let him cool off and everything would be OK. Great advice, huh?

Many times, I have been asked, "How did you get the courage to finally leave and never return?" After all, he had threatened to have my mother killed, and to take my daughter away from me.

My response was, "He was killing me anyway, so I figured I would stand a better chance away from him than with him." I thought if he came and killed me, then at least I would die with a smile on my face. A smile because I had severed his insanity from my life.

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Clueless Parents!

2009-03-18T19:35:00.001-05:00

Dating Questions To Ask Your Teenager!

How are things going?

What Are Your Friends' Dating Relationships Like?

Have You Ever Seen Any Kind of Abusive Behavior Between Two People Who Are Going Out?

Why Do You Think Someone Would Abuse Someone They Were Dating?

Why Might a Person Stay in an Abusive Relationship?

What Makes a Relationship Healthy?

What Can You Do If You Have a Friend Who Is Threatened—or a Friend Who Is Abusive?

What Kind of Messages About Dating Abuse and Relationships Do We See in the Media?

If Your Teen Is Dating Someone, Ask "How Is Your Relationship Going?"

Where Can You Go to Find Help If You or a Friend Needs It?

These are suggestions from Liz Claiborne's site Love Is Not Abuse. You may not want to use these exact questions, but it's highly recommended that you find time in your busy schedule to engage in conversation with your teen on this critical part of their life. The majority of parents whose teens were in violent relationships report that they were clueless.

What Are These Parents Thinking?

Why? Are they just not "good" parents? Hardly. And who are these people? They could be: YOU. ME.

Yes, there are some parents who are in abusive relationships themselves. However, many are attentive parents, but they miss the signs. And not because they are neglectful. Their teens are great at covering-up and many times doing so until it's too late.

We all need to learn better ways to educate ourselves as parents, first. Then we need not waste any time in sharing what we know with our teens. Really, as I stated in a previous post, the time should be LONG before they are teens.

So let me ask you, have you ever had conversation with your child about this subject? Have you openly trained your children to know what to "look" for in themselves as well as in others while in a relationship?

What Are These Teens Thinking?

We take for granted that our children know not to accept abusive behavior. The truth is many of these teens do not see it as abusive until long into the relationship. Even then they struggle that it is indeed a problem.

Remember, teens don't start their relationships with abuse at the front door. Abusers have an amazing way of charming their way in. Too, many of these young men, on the front side, do not know that they have an issue.

No, that doesn't excuse their behavior. However, it just shows us that the sooner we can begin to educate young boys and girls on the proper way to treat one other, the better chance we have of reducing the stats of dating violence.

The Danger Spreads

****As parents, we should be aware that not only will their child be in danger, but the entire family may find that they are in danger as well. In my case, my abuser often threatened to have my mother killed. Scary times!

NOTE: Let me restate, that the center where I worked were very proactive in helping young men/men overcome their addiction to anger/abuse. Like it or not, women are abused the most by men, not the other way around. Just note that men ARE abused, but just not in the large numbers women are.

RESOURCES FOR HELP!

Find out more about Liz Claiborne Inc.'s Love Is Not Abuse campaign at LoveIsNotAbuse.com

If you need help or know someone who does, call:

The National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline at 866-331-9474.

Or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE.

82 schools and organizations in the dfw area are using this curriculum!!!!

In the DFW area, I would recommend: Safe Haven of Tarrant County

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Tell Me What You Know About Domestic/Dating Violence

2009-03-16T19:02:00.006-05:00

More than muggings, car accidents and rapes combined, domestic violence is the single largest cause of injury to women 15-44 years of age.

Two million to four million women are battered each year, and 2,000 of these battered women will die of their injuries." (Annals of Emergency Medicine, 2000).

Who are these women?

You? Me? A neighbor? A family member? A work associate? A work-out partner? A friend? A minister's wife? A politician's wife? A famous artist?

Are these women just stupid? Pathetic? Poor decision makers? Self-seeking victims? Uneducated? Losers? Unable to get anyone else? Poverty ridden? Minorities?

Demographically, domestic violence crosses all ages, races, and socioeconomic classes. As does dating violence.

Look around you. And note that one in five women are in domestic violent relationships. Some reports are higher. But think on that. One in five. You may very well be staring into the face of an abused women every day of your life.

I would say that no woman ever steps into a relationship with the intent to be abused. Nor does she believe she will be abused. And I would go so far to say young men do not begin their dating lives thinking they are going to be abusers.

Most women and men do not understand the dynamics of dating or domestic violence on the front end. Many of you reading this right now don't even know. I would say that reps the biggest part of society. Which means we are seriously delinquent.

Where are we Headed?

We are in the 21st century, aren't we? When are we going to increase education on DV starting with our young children? We can't wait until they are teens. That's what we've been doing. And while that is desperately needed, we must now catch the vision that young children deserve to be enlightened. It's called prevention.

When I worked at the domestic violent center, I was a community speaker. Educating. Dismantling myths. Misconceptions. And presenting the facts. Facts that shed light on a well hidden and dark social dilemma.

Neatly tucked away, that is until some famous person hits the news, as we have seen recently with singing artists Chris Brown and Rhianna. Other than that, women are dying silently. MORE than three women are murdered daily by their partner. (The United States Department of Justice, 2001)

Do I care enough to make some small step toward helping this end? Do you? Ask yourself that. We may not win the world, but that's not our mission. Rather, it's one person at a time.

I recall speaking before hundreds of OL (Over-Loaded) students and thinking, is anyone listening? My answer? If only one person wrapped themselves around what I was conveying, it was worth every minute. And there was NEVER an occasion where at least one, if not many, would come up to me after with questions or concerns.

I miss those days. But they served their season. Now, I'm on to other ways of "teaching". Right here, for one! I hope if nothing else, you will pass this info on either by word or deed. Or just send them to this site.

I've been asked to share my own personal story. And I might. We will see!

In the meantime, I wish you well in your personal relationships!

Pass The Cheese, Please?

2009-03-15T13:03:00.005-05:00

As I began to research for this article, I couldn't help but remember a young girl about 14 years old who was tempted to "try" heroin one bright sunny day in the halls of her junior high school.

"Cheese" is Mexican black-tar heroin that has been diluted with crushed tablets of over-the-counter sleep medication.
The OTC is usually Tylenol PM. When diluted it's about 1-3 percent heroin. The problem with that is though it may be low doses of heroin, the effect wears off more quickly requiring more frequent hits to keep the high.
Cheese is a cheap high at $2-$10 a packet, therefore making it more appealing to the lower income populations.
Cheap with an expensive end...death.
Demographically it's used more among Hispanic people, especially those who are Spanish-speaking families with immigrants. Not that other cultures are immune to being strangled by it as well. It seems to be more isolated to the state of Texas. The concern it that it will begin and has begun to spread to other parts of the country.
Cheese is being used mainly by the very young. Heroin is typically used by older adults.

Cheese is highly dangerous to children. Of course it is, you say, as I did when I first read that in an article. Yet, when you look closer, you will understand why that's even necessary to be stated.

For one, children, more than adults do not consider the danger and often don't realize it is indeed deadly.
Some don't realize that it's heroine.
It's cost worthy to them for the high.
But the cost soars when that high insists that they return for yet another trip.

Sarah had tried to get help through treatment centers, but to no avail.

Toward the end, as an exercise at her drug-treatment center, she wrote her own obituary:
"A 17-year-old Hispanic female was found died. She went to Emmit J. Conrad High School and was in the 9Th grade. Her name was Sarah Alejandra Aviles. Sarah was a beautiful young women but had problems hanging with the wrong crowd.
"A lot of her friends were gang banger and they sold drugs. She had a 21-year-old brother, and a 8-year-old baby sister, a loving, struggling mother but a father that wasn't really there." Dallas Morning News 3/15/09

What a tragedy. What a loss. My heart hurts for her family. And for those suffering in this addiction.

Addiction is a strange lot. I've counseled with people controlled by this deadly disease over the years. So many never make it. And the ones that do continue to struggle more than you or I can even begin to imagine.

It's easy for some to judge people who are addicted to drugs or alcohol. I often wonder if those who do not have these issues ever look at what they are addicted to? Money, things, prestige, authority, control, manipulation, church, their religion. You see, it comes in all forms. And it has one thing in common: DEATH.

Dating Violence, When Will It End?

2009-03-12T16:41:00.002-05:00

I see little change in the 21st century concerning dating and domestic violence when compared to the previous century.

Women in domestic violent situations are 1 in 4. Girls abused in dating relationships are 1 in 3.

Does that sound like things are evolving? All this talk of "the universe"experiencing a oneness with humanity? As Paula A. says, we are becoming a more gentle people? What's wrong with this picture then?

And when I hear Denise Brown, Nicole Simpson's sister, on Larry King the other night, say when she saw the headlines about Chris Brown, it made her question what we have learned since Nicole's death? I'm like, "What?" What have we learned since Nicole...? Not being ugly, but really, what about what have we learned since Molly, Candy, Jan, and all those nameless women have been or being abused and or die EVERY DAY, EVERY second of a day?

What have we learned? I don't get that? This isn't just about big time hot-shots in the media, this is about PEOPLE. Just people. People everywhere, from every walk of life. And they all deserve to be acknowledged.

Wake up, America!
These stats should be sobering. Look around you, and consider the vast amount of women who are in abusive situations.

What You Can Do?

Quit being critical. Quit thinking, "I'd never put up with that!"
Quit judging, "Those women are just stupid and they are stupid for 'staying'!"
If that is your attitude, you need it checked.
And you need to educate yourself before inserting foot in mouth.

I don't say that unkindly, but strongly. Why? It's because of uneducated attitudes like that that we continue to suffer this demise in the lives of women of all ages and socio-economic status.

What Do I Know?
Back in the 90s, I was on the speaker's bureau at a nationally known domestic violence center. My job description was to inform the community about the perils of this social illness as a means of prevention and awareness. It changed my life. I know most of you are not going to find that in your field of expertise, but I implore you to step up and learn more.

And more so, folks, I was in a dating violent relationship as a teenager. Which was followed up by a domestic violent relationship in my early adulthood. And, no, I didn't grow up in a violent home. Nothing could be further from the truth. Understanding the dynamics of why and how these things happen is paramount if change is going to happen in our society. We are obviously not doing something right.

Only The Famous!
So how sad is it that it takes well-known people, like Chris Brown, to abuse someone to get our attention? That grieves me. I mean, there are people all around us being abused and rarely does it hit the news until someone gets killed.

Young adults are now using the term "Chris-Brown-it" when playing video games. The meaning being slung around as carelessly as Chris's hands were on Rhianna.

What will it take to change the face of this social dilemma?

Whether you like Oprah or not, she will be addressing this social demise Thursday, March 12. There are numerous options to educate yourself. Look up your local domestic violent center and ask them for material. You might even want to go to a lecture on the matter in your community.

Think about it. We'll be talking about this more in future articles.

Photo:clk here
Article Revised: 3/14/09
Note: This does not exclude the fact that men are abused. More on that later.
I will be addressing my own personal experience as well.

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Barbie Turns 50 Today!!!!

2009-03-09T11:04:00.008-05:00

Is this hard core reality, or what? Can you believe they are finally making Barbie for real?

You are right, they aren't. This is just a pic of a rendition of what 5o looks like.

Hmmmm, what do you think? I'd say she's a tad overworked.

I've never known whether to take it as a compliment when people have said, "Oh, you look like Barbie!" LOL. It's my coloring, my long hair, my height. I don't know. Regardless, I hope I age a little better than "this" Barbie. She's still a "doll" though!!!!

Honestly, we give way too much attention to how a person looks. duh. I guess that's the one thing that is a common denominator with the ageless Barbie...some things never change.

Here's Barbie's backdrop:

Barbie in the Making!
Was Barbie an Original?

Sorry, to disappoint. No, she wasn't. She has German ancestry. Sort of. Like me. LOL You see, my ancestors left Switzerland and headed for Germany with the unrest in their home country. Barbie, on the other hand had a "sister", older, I might add, named Bild Lilli.

Bild has not received the due press she deserves. Bild was a racy lady based on a German cartoon. Ruth Handler found her while visiting Germany. She brought her home for her daughter "Barbie" to play with. Ruth convinced her hubby and his company Mattel that America needed a doll like Bild and "Barbie" was born, March 9, 1959.

Tell me Barbie and Bild don't look like twins. Maybe they were separated at birth!

Barbie is the Root of Eating Disorders and Other Such Maladies?

Barbie has remained the most controversial doll of all time. Yet, she continues to see approximately 3 barbies every second of the day, bringing in $3.6 billion in revenue every year. Just about every North American girl has owned one at some point in their lives. By the way, "Fulla", a Barbie like sister, is sold in the Mid-East to better rep that particular culture.

Barbie's Body, Is it for Real?!
At 50 years old, she still carries her fab figure. While the original Barbie was more curvy-- 36-18-38, at 5'9, in 1994 Barbie went under REduction augmentation. She's closer to 34-22-34. She's still tall with long blond hair. Has she had an "uplift" lately? Probably not. Exercising. Probably yes.

The average woman is 5' 4", weighs 145 lbs., and wears between a size 11-14. Her measurements are approximately 36"/30"/41". And there's a 50-50 percent chance that she's on a diet. By the way, plastic surgery is at an all time high with females.

There is an 80% chance girls, by the time they are in the fourth-grade, will have been on at least one diet. Ten-years-old. Wow! And by the time she they are in college, there is a 19 percent chance they will develop an eating disorder (see my recent series). Time Magazine

Does this mean it's Barbie's fault?

Barbie Is a Workaholic?
She has had every kind of occupation any woman could ever desire. (Well, where is my Pilates Barbie? I need to discuss this with Mattel.)

Opponents continue to complain. Why?

Goodness, Barbie is not one person. She is all of us. In some way or the other. No matter the size, shape, or color. She is who "you" make her to be. Goodness, folks, she's NOT real. She's a doll. What doll ever really looked like a REAL person. Not many. Images in the media are all air brushed and timeless.

Think about it. Girls are MORE exposed to REAL people than dolls. Let's face it, parents do have the power to teach appropriate attitudes about how a girl or boy views their self-worth, and their body images.

My Barbie Days
Vintage Barbie is from 1959 to 1972 (with Mod era dolls released from about 1966 through 1972. All other Barbie dolls are considered Modern Barbie.

No, I'm not vintage!!! I had the Mod era Barbie. I also had Francie, Ken, Midge, Skipper, and what was the little girl's name? Hmmmm, starts with at "T". UH, oh yes, "Tutti" who was Todd's twin sister.

Do I remember the countless hours "playing Barbies". And as far as I know I can't blame Barbie for any of my rebellious actions! Neither can she take credit for my view on bust size...or any other anatomy size. I'm not one of those who believes Barbie has that much control over our minds.

My oldest daughter's generation had Cabbage Patch dolls. Did that mean the dolls caused that generation to want to look like them? What do you think?! Oh, yes, I know some of you, including my hubby, believe they (C.P's) were possessed.

Regardless, dolls have been around for eons. Personally, I believe we have a lot more to worry about seizing the minds of our children besides these dolls.

Give Barbie a break!

Resources:

PHOTO of 50 yr old Barbie is by a Brazilian artist according to AARP (3/09)
The Book: Barbie and Ruth, Harper 2009

Shop Shop
Barbie has a Facebook? Yes!!! She has nearly 80,000 fans!
History on Bild clk here.
Barbie's Birthday Party at Bloomingdales!
NOTE: Scroll and Look at the video on the previous post!
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Barbie in Her 50s! Should I, or Should I Not?

2009-03-09T10:54:00.005-05:00

Happy 50, Barbie!

Couldn't resist posting this video on Barbie's big 50!!! Should I or should I not? My kids and hubby would disown me. But, then, how would they survive?! JK. Enjoy.

Don't worry, I'm not promoting kids getting tattoos any more than my mother promoted me getting my ears pierced....more than once.

Think about it. Every generation has its "thing" that the parents think is just CRAZY! Do we have double standards?

REMEMBER: YOU MIGHT WANT TO TURN OFF MY PLAYLIST AT THE BOTTOM OF THE PAGE. CLK ON UPPER LEFT ICON ON PLAYLIST!

Things That Go Bump In The Night!

2009-03-08T19:37:00.004-05:00

Balance Your Act.

That's what I thought I'd been doing when suddenly I totally lost my equilibrium at 3:30 a.m. Friday and crashed into a book shelf, waking the dead and my hubby!!!

More on that this week. Balance, that is! And how to keep it as you age! Sorry, folks, you are aging if you are alive. But we can do it well.

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Dating Violence, When Will It End?

2009-03-06T16:51:00.005-06:00

I see little difference with society's role since teaching dating violence awareness years ago. Women are abused 1 out of 4. Girls are abused in dating relationships 1 out of 3.

Oprah, will be addressing this social demise Thursday, March 12.

Young adults are now using the term "Chris Brown" it when playing video games. The meaning being slung around as carelessly as Chris's hands were on Rhianna.

What will it take to change the face of this social dilemma?

Think about it. We'll be talking about this more in future articles.

Photo:clk here
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Dying To Be Thin

2009-03-06T16:13:00.002-06:00

WARNING
Signs
of ...

Anorexia
Nervosa:

Extreme wt. loss.
Refusal to eat certain food groups (eg., no carbs).
Despite wt. loss, they will continue to make comments on being fat.
Anxiety about gaining weight.
Denial of hunger.
Food rituals develop such as eating foods in a certain order.
Excessive chewing.
Rearranging food.
Excuses to avoid mealtimes or situations involving food.
Excessive, rigid exercise programs despite weather, fatigue, illness, or injury.
The need to "burn-off" calories.
Withdrawal from usual friends and events.
In general, behaviors and attitudes indicating that wt loss, dieting and control of food are primary.

Anorexia Involves

Self-starvation.
The body will slowly begin to function improperly as the nutrients are no longer available.
Therein, leads to possible death as in the case of Karen Carpenter.

NOTE: For a personal story, click here Kacey H. Cramer
Resources: NEDA, and interviews with people who have this disorder.

Down The Toilet

2009-03-06T15:54:00.004-06:00

WARNING

Signs

of Bulimia:

Disappearance of large amounts of food in short periods.
Frequent trips to the bathroom after meals.
The smell of vomiting on their breath or clothes.
Presence of packaging for laxatives or diuretics.
Rigid exercise programs no matter whether there is illness or serious weather conditions, etc..
Fixation on the need to burn off calories.
Unusual puffiness/swelling of the cheeks or jaw area.
Calluses on the back of the hands and knuckles form self induced vomiting.
Discoloration of teeth.
Creation of complex lifestyle schedules or rituals to make time for binging and purging.
Withdrawal form usual friends and events.
In general, behaviors and attitudes indicating wt. loss, dieting and control of food are the focus.

Bulimia:

When repeated over a period time, can affect the entire digestive system.
The purging can lead to electrolyte and chemical imbalances, which in turn affects organs such as the heart and other major organ functions.
Death may await them.
Often, people with bulimia eat in secret.
They typically are ashamed or disgusted with themselves by their behavior.

NOTE: For a personal story from Kristen Moeller, click here.
Resource: NEDA, personal interviews with people with this disorder

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